XOW called yesterday asking for H's mom to babysit OC. H said she could if she needed to. H's cell phone is not working but she has our home phone #, she didn't use it. She is waiting in his parking lot when he get to work and says his mom needs to watch OC because she's too sick to go to daycare. H tells his boss, leaves work, and takes OC to his mom's. Then calls me and says if I want to spend time w/ OC to go to his mom's and help her. (XOW doesn't want me alone w/ OC.-not that it's her choice.) I did, and spent the entire day playing with, and caring for OC. XOW wanted h's parents phone # and he refused. He said she could call him if necessary. (H's mom doesn't want to talk to her!) She called h 2 times to check on OC and he would check on her and get back to her. XOW got off at 3, but H asked if he could keep her a little later since he wasn't getting to see OC (he was at work). She said 6:30 would be fine, but OC's bedtime was 7 so we had to have OC back before then. I went w/ H to drop off OC, he asked me not to tell XOW I was w/ OC all day so as to not cause problems. I reluctantly agreed, although I try not to talk to her, so I'm not sure how that would have come up. When we pull up XOW is getting OC's carseat out of our car. I open the door, and turn to face her. She tells me it is not necessary for me to open the door. I said "Excuse me?" She says there is "no need to open the door." I told her I could open the door if I chose and it really wasn't her business. She turns to put the OC in her car and tells H is that why we had to wait until 6:30? (Meaning she thinks I am the reason, H really did want to spend time w/ OC, and I was w/ OC all day.) H drops what he was putting in her car, walks back to my car, and we left w/o another word. H looks at me and says "I told you I won't take her crap. Don't let this get you upset, I'll take care of it." I asked him what that meant and he said he wasn't sure. We'll see where we go from here. It pisses me of because I have every reason to hate XOW, I try to be nice for OC's sake, and she still treats me like crap. I'm curious what H's next move will be.

I know it's hard dealing w/ an ow. Especially one who is trying to cause as much conflict as possible. You've triumphed however because you've held your composure and behaved while she on the other hands has not. She sems a tad immature and and proabably thinks that her actions willl cause conflict and hurt your relationship w/ wh. Don't give her that power continue to support each other and handle each situation as it arise by whats best for the family. Best of luck.
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wait a minute? OW is arguing about YOU opening the door of YOUR car to take out OC car seat? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

WTHECK! hahahahahah LOL. I think NOW I have heard it all. If that was NOT a blatant attempt to start an arguement! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

What did she think, she could jsut have access to YOUR car? uah hello? Noone does that!

Good job! for H. Way to send OW a message that he will NOT put up w/ her stupidity.

Except............the whoel meeting @ work & not letting her know that you are perfectly capable of caring for OC. What will OW do? REfuse & then stay home from work herself? DUH!!!

It's called being a 'single mom'. Get a grip. She HAS to accept that there is no other alternative. YOU can watch OC or OW can stay home herself.

That is the only thing I have a problem w/. H is reinforcing OW idea of separating you 2 & coming between you. THAT kind of crap---I don't like.

Great that he did not give OW, mom's # too. Poor grandma---if she would have had to be in that position. {I remember OW said she needed to meet H parents since OC would be aroudn them when we visit! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> My MIL was freaking out----she was like I DON'T WANT TO MEET/SEE HER! WE didn't allow that!}

And waiting @ his job? uh hello? what a freak! OW can call the house. YOu don't just show up @ someone's work place like that.

HE should tell her all that & get over the stupid bit about not wanting to cause problems w/ her. HE should be MORE concerned about NOT wanting to cause problems between you two!
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Well, @ least it sounds like he is really making steps in the right direction! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


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XOW had not called since the incident last week. She called H at work this week (no mention of previous incident.) We pay CS twice a month (their own agreement.) XOW's purse was stolen about 3 weeks ago. She wanted cash. I told H to go ahead and do it this one time, to be nice- she doesn't have an ID to cash a check etc... She called this week saying she went to get her ID, but I don't think it's come it yet. She wanted cash again, I told him this is the last time we give cash. He agreed and said she should have everything she needs by next time, a month should be adequate time to get everything she needed. Besides she's the idiot who left her door open in a public parking place w/ her purse in plain view! She lives in a big city! What did she think would happen? I hope she's not as careless w/ her child.

Wife30... you have given her the benefit of the doubt, without anything REMOTELY identical coming from her. For that,you should feel so proud! You MUST be making steps in the right direction! You MUST be feeling secure, and like the DIVA that you are!!! woo-hoo for you lady!!!!!!

The OC is innocent, and deserves whatever is within your strength to give! The OW deserves NORTHING.. and you STILL gave her some understanding and compassion!

Again, woo- hoo for you and for the strength you possess. You are such a shining example of how WE ARE THE ADMIRABLE, RESPECTABLE AND SHINING STARS, beyond all reason and expectation!!

Kudos to you, classy lady!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ditto what they said! Gee, she p*sses me off and I don't even know her!! That you kept your cool and was even COMPASSIONATE in the face of her garbage is FABULOUS!!

Keep up the good work and I hope your H sticks UP for you, Honey, you deserve it!!