I have not posted on this board for quite sometime, but I visit often to see how you ladies are doing. H and I have decided to end C with OC because it was it hard on our new marriage. H and I were not marriage when OC was born, but were had two children and were living together. When OC was born H decided to he wanted to stay with me and our children and we married when OC was about 1 year old. Four days after we were married H was in court for CS and visitation and over two years later the same thing is going on. XOW has taking H back and forth to court for one reason or the other.

We have had visitation with OC on and off and decided because of all of the games OW was playing it was not worth losing our family over. so, WE decided to end contact. We prayed about the decided and ARE happy that we made it.

Recently H half S met OW by chance. No one H family had ever met OW and H and I were fine was that--no need. My SIL allowed OW to tell her side of the story and made me look like the crazy- bitter-looney. OW stating that OC is not coming around because she does not want me around OC. SIL went and spread all that crap to my other IL's. H and I are very privatelabout our business to his family. I feel so betrayed by my SIL, because instead of defending me or not discussing our business at all of OW. she just said she did not really know me. Should I confront my SIL to tell the truth about things or leave it alone?

Oh boy- I have the same problem on my hands-- but your is worse because aside from interfering w/your married business (sil)... she is also not taking up for you and harming your character right along with xow... eek this is tough- I know!

I say yes you should confront her. Does she even know that YOU know about this stuff, first of all?

You can confront her in a non-confronational way, because after all- you are at a disadvantage now that ow has slandered you and put YOU on the defense <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> . Let her know you heard a, b and c ... and it really hurt you.

With my situation, I had to madly tell off SIL and stop talking to her all together (and H too for the most part).. because she was being a young, immature absolute brat and rude! She forced that. Try the nice approach first-it may get you two into a better dialogue and understanding one another better. Let her see the best side of you first! I know you want to knock her [censored] off, but.... its a no win sitution right now!

I told my SIL that I WAS HER SISTER! Being married to her only sibling (my H, who she ADORES).. makes me her #1 priority-- no matter WHO OW is (and unfortunately this was her childhood friend/friend of H's family growing up ) SIL was so dead set on "this is my friend-and there is no reason I should not talk to her and see OC and share with OC my brother's (H) pictures and tell OC about him, etc etc.." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> She ALSO has gone as far as to say she WOULD take OUR KIDS around OC if she pleased!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> She also has fought w/H numerous times about him being wrong for not having a relationship w/OC, no matter how many ways he and I tried to help her understand how very hard these decisions were to make- and how fragile our family was, and her interference was very very wrong.....

She has been a real handful and H had to tell her she was going to be disowned by him, period-- she came a crying back to us -- cried to me and him how sorry she was..... but it probably won't last.

You have to worry about YOU-- and block her out as much as possible-- talk to you inlaws, etc. if you need to - but if she is not responsive, as my SIL was not at first-- cut her out of your life-- and H can follow suit if he wants to show her how much she is screwing with his family and wife! My H stood up for us-and you H may have to also. Its very hard - I know- cause H and I are both very close with our siblings-- and we are close with each others' siblings, too. We dont do the family fued crap- never have - but this was getting close !!

Keep us posted and good luck -- this is a TOUGH one!!!!!!!

((( Lisa))))) You and H hang tight- you 2 are family and his siblings must come second now to your united front.

Personally I would confront sil. What she did was disrespectful to you and your family. I think you should sit her down and tell her how you are feeling and how her actions caused additional hurt and pain in an already emotionally intense situation.

You and your husband need to sit her down and explain to her that what she did was wrong. THEN you need to have you HUSBAND inform his parents, and whomever else you so choose the TRUTH.

Personally, life is short. If this were my sister or sister in law, she would be cut out of my life immediately. She would not be invited for family functions, birthdays, etc. At the holidays I would not so much as give her the time of day. I would expect your husband to do the same.