Many of you know that we're still waiting to get the paternity test done for various reasons. I've accepted this is most likely H's child. There's no way I could handle the uncertainty this long w/o accepting that. From what I see it is usually H's child. Do any of you now stories where it wasn't?

Look up posts from a Member called Zebrababy. Her and her H provided support for a child that turned out wasn't H's.

Wife30,,

It IS possible. We have had several members here that received DNA tests proving their H's were NOT the father of the OC.

Just a few.......

Niobe ---- The Results are in

LynnG---- Great News for one Family

tinlizzy------ A Miracle!! My dh is not the donor!!!

Jules27----- Best News of my Life

zebrababy---- OW called---the DNA results are in.......

And these are just a few from a real quick search I did.

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Wow! My head is spinning after reading those! I would love so much for it to not be his (he's made the same comment). But, I can't get my hope's up, and go through all of this again. I just wish he'd hurry up and get it over with! It's so strange because H is usually the sceptical person between the two of us! I want this test over with. I feel like I'm driving a wedge between H and I at times because I push for it so often. He tends to get frustrated. He says it's going to happen, but he also seems to trust what XOW says that it's his. I of course don't believe anything she says! I also have to look at it as: it's probably his, I've accepted that, so- should I let his procrastination destory our marriage more? I keep praying he'll see how important it is, and get it over with!

Wife,

Like I told Hurt, IMHO - your H already had things HIS way, now it is time for him to do what he needs to do to save your marriage. A paternity test will ease your pain - because then there will be no doubt what has to be done!

You are already extending him more courtesy than he deserves dealing with his betrayal and illegitimate child. Don't let OW pull the wool over your eyes. Our OW didn't tell us the OC might not be my H's until the child was NINE MONTHS OLD - she insisted that whole time that the baby was my H's. Even made my H feel like an @ss for asking if she had slept with anyone else - she insisted she had only been with my H! OW are liars, too, in some cases. You don't have to trust her, she is 50% responsible for this nightmare, and NOT because she was HONEST or TRUSTWORTHY!!

GET the TEST - if that's what you need, get it done, and quickly!!

Hope this helps. I know it's difficult. Stay strong and keep your chin up, honey.

Hugs,
aVNL

Boy do I. Last year a young couple in our area was faced with a STOW. She harrassed and demanded so much. This couple paid for an insurance policy on the child, etc. To cover their share of the cost of the birth, etc. The ow continually harrassed, acting as if she was a wife who was owed. Loser that she was. She signed a sworn affadavit that she was with nobody but this man, so they had to pay an attorney, plan for insurance, etc. Guess what? The child was NOT his.

They in turn sued her for fraud. She ended up owing them for their attorney fees, insurance fees, etc. Her smug attitude fell away quick when she realized her game was over. Her family was disgusted. It was settled out of court and she had to pay them thousands. She even had the gall to try to get it reduced/dropped cause she "just had a baby" But the kicked her hard.

She had to sell her car to pay them, and the husband gave his wife all the money to blow! She took a bunch of us to a spa for the royal treatement!!

That particular ow is living in her parents basement today. The couple has moved on.

It happens far more then you realize.

It's been awhile since I have posted here but I wanted to jump in on this conversaton as it's the topic of interest in my situation.

I wanted H to do DNA but he said he "knew" it was his. That everyone said OC looks just like him. I don't see it and my two friends don't see it. He said he would do it and FINALLY ordered the test yesterday. We are just doing one of those in-home tests where you do the swab youself and then mail it back to the lab. We just want to know for ourselves. If it comes back that it's not his then we will go the legal DNA route. We feel it is his but there is always that .005% chance it's not. RIGHT?

Also, I just don't want to tell our small children if there is even the smallest chance that it is not.

I think it may be easier if the wife is the one with the child. Like someone said, don't do DNA and just go with the flow that it's yours and H (if H can deal with that). There are no snickers from neighbors because they will assume it's from the M. In the reverse, there is no way to hide the fact that this child is not from the M.

KT, Glad you revealed that piece of information. Also, glad to see that so many pepole still have not done it or are in the process of getting it done.

I mentioned doing an at home one last night, and H said "No, we will do a court admissible one." Hopefully that means soon.

KT, Glad you revealed that piece of information.

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Wife---yep, it's always better to do it through the courts, I think-that way it is on record ect.

There have also been many cases where the man just 'knew' it was his & the 'woman' swore up & down it was his....so he accepted it only to find out years later that it was NOT his-but too late-----since he has 'accepted' responsibity---he is legally, financially responsible for the rest of that child's minor life AND/OR they find out years down the road & now that daddy has bonded w/ 'his' child---find's out that it is NOT his & he retains NO legal rights when the real father was found!

IT is in everyone's BEST interest to have DNA done & on record.

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kt

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kt