Hello Everyone,
It's been a long time since I've posted. I'll try to give you a short version of what's been going on with me.
· Dday 7/29/03
· OC was born 12/30/03
· Divorce was final 11/04 (tried everything possible to keep it going, but…)
· CS hearing for our son is 2/05
· OC on the way, due date: 1/28 or 2/10 - 05 (Yes, another OC)
Exh & I were still living together for financial reason until I kicked him to the curb on 11/27/04. Wasn’t that desperate for money!!!
Exh is now living with ow, both are very miserable together. OW wants exh to leave because his heart is not into the relationship or with oc. He's there because he has nowhere else to go. He doesn't want to stay with friends because they have families... Yea, Yea, Yea or shall I say Blah, Blah, Blah. He said with the money he’s giving her and me he doesn’t have enough money to live on his own… Again, Blah, Blah, Blah…
I told him what is wrong with the both of them. What was the point of the A in the first place and the ow seemed to give a good fight (they did get pregnant again) and now they don’t want it anymore? Can someone please help me justify this?
I’m guessing because she finally realize what a jerk he really is or it could be there’s a court order for him to pay her CS and with him living there’s no more CS coming in or ow got smart and realizes he’s not reliable or stable with her maybe that’s why she wants him out??? Who knows!! Who cares!!! That’s their problem…
After I kicked him to the curb it was good because now I can concentrate with my goals of moving on & making new plans in my life. Well, these past 3 weeks exh has been spending a lot of time with our son & spending a lot of time sleeping over too… No, it’s not like that. The only way I would let him sleep over is if he respects my space and it’s only for our son. I have no intent of ruining my goals or plans… I’m over it! It feels good that he doesn’t’ concern me anymore, it feels good to say yes you can or no you can’t… I’m calling the shots now; move over baby because I’m in control of my life!!!
Of course ow doesn’t like the fact that my exh is spending a lot of time at my place. It feels funny because I feel like the ow now. LOL… I guess what goes around comes around!!! Not my problem! Or maybe ow is upset because exh didn’t spend Xmas with oc being it was oc first Xmas. Instead exh picked up our son on Christmas Eve to spend the holiday with his family came back late Christmas day & spent the night & went back home to ow on Sunday? Or was it because exh spent the day with us on oc 1st bday? Not my problem!!!
Oh just so you know I have to give a huge Thanks to my Lord & Savior without him this strength & courage to “BREAKTHROUGH†wouldn’t be possible without him… Thank you Jesus!!!
Thanks for letting me share my “BREAK THROUGH†with you…. I understand that everyone goes through a grieving process differently and I pray for everyone who has and who is going through these rough times in his or her lives. I was there and remember the pain all to well. All you have to do is pray for it & God shall give you the “Break Though†that you deserve. When I say break through it doesn’t necessarily mean to get a divorce rather to break through this stressfulness in your lives. Divorce was a choice that God has given to me & with his Grace & Mercy he made it possible for me to do so because I couldn’t bare the pain anymore… Now I’m free!
