This is off topic but I wanted to point out this observation. It has to do with some of the message content over at TOW. I am a some time lurker over there...Why? You ask...I'm not sure. Just to see what goes through the minds of the posters...sometimes for ****s and giggles..I dunno.

Anyhow I think some of their posts has to do with what kind of woman they are. For example they always have sex threads, or things of that nature, or they are telling each other to F--k off. I've noticed everyone here at MB is respectful, they don't cuss at each other, or talk about sex all the time. What do you think that says about what kind of people they are? This is not so start anything. If anyone feels it is innapropiate please delete. It is just an observation.

(Joshmom) (Marysway) not saying that you guys are like this since I know ya'll have posted there.

I also found that interesting too, as an observation.

Maybe the content is due to the 'nature' of the board.

Which I find ironic because it seems that many (not all) OW posts SWEAR that an A is NOT just about sex.

I dunno either. And maybe it is not so much here because we are focused on the topic @ hand----A resulting in OC.

There are other forums about sex.

I do frequent one, it is for Christian married people so the topics are always sex related. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> kwim?

And the cussing? interesting hanh?
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I think one of the major differences is religion.
It seems, predominantly, the posters here practice and/or struggle w/ some sort of faith & it shows.

While, over-all, a currently practicing OW, might not be currently involved in a faith based lifestyle.

I am not saying that every OW has no 'faith' but the actions would make one question what kind, if any, faith it would be.

JUST AS a WS's faith would also be questioned.

And the tone sets the mood & vice-versa. It seems that foul language, over all is not tolerated here but is elsewhere so then it will be used more often elsewhere. kwim?

There are a few ways around it here but nothing blatant.
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I also found the over-all 'attitude' contrary & interesting. To say the least.

Why do you think that is?

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I'm also a lurker "over there". I don't know why, it's kind of addicting; like a soap opera.

I don't know why ANYONE would feel justified in starting a relationship with a person who is married, and it amazes me how many of them know BEFORE the relationship develops that the other person is married!

It confuses me too. I actually have read thread over there from people who met the MM/MW at CHURCH! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> There's seriously something wrong with that!

Basically, IMHO, I think that extramarital affairs are about sex 80% of the time. My H told me that he was attracted to OW before they developed any kind of intimacy. They both seemed to like the "thrill", knowing they were being deceitful and adulterous turned them on. It doesn't surprise me that they talk about sex all the time.

And why would they treat eachother with respect? They have a proven track record of disrespect! They disrespect the marriage, the MM/MW children and family, co-workers, friends, etc., etc.! It takes so many lies and disrespectful actions to commit adultery!

I'm not surprised at all.

(This is not meant to be offensive to those who post here, like said earlier - I think that the folks who post here maintain a good amount of respect for others)

Interesting, though predictable, I think. It takes a certain amount of class to remain respectful.

You guys rule.

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" And why would they treat eachother with respect? They have a proven track record of disrespect! They disrespect the marriage, the MM/MW children and family, co-workers, friends, etc., etc.! It takes so many lies and disrespectful actions to commit adultery! "

So true victim. I was a bit baffled because most of them claim they are decent contributing members of society and get mad when people (especially the BW) say otherwise. But look at how they write, their language. Don't sound so decent to me ya know. I also agree it does take a certain amount of class to be respectful of themselves, and other people.

Yeah, and that vomiting smiley freaks me out!!