</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Stormyweather:
<strong> Actually, Lonely, for me this is a rather informative and supportive board for the women its intended to support. My reason for being here is not to inflict pain or mock these women for staying and fighting for their marriages. If anything, they have helped me dispel the stereotypes I had come to know as "the unsuspecting wifes" and try and blame them for the reasons their husbands go outside their marriages for whatever reasons.

Many of the women on here are thoughtful and family oriented and are simply trying to handle a rather difficult process of saving and securing their families. Yes, they lash out at times and they have ever right to do so especially here. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">***************edit**********

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:53 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

LonelyGirl, how old are you?

"Ewwwwwwwwww." "Naaaaaaaaah." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

You don't sound like a woman...you sound like a very juvenile girl.

Crashing this site, and taunting the rightful inhabitants...? That's what you do for fun?! No wonder you are a "lonely girl." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Wipe up your trail of slime and go back to the gutter you came from.

See ya!

(Anyone got any Febreze? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by gardenbunny:
<strong> LonelyGirl, how old are you?

"Ewwwwwwwwww." "Naaaaaaaaah." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

You don't sound like a woman...you sound like a very juvenile girl.

Crashing this site, and taunting the rightful inhabitants...? That's what you do for fun?! No wonder you are a "lonely girl." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Wipe up your trail of slime and go back to the gutter you came from.

See ya!

(Anyone got any Febreze? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ) </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">**********edit***********

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:55 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

I know no one on here probably cares to hear my opinion, but I am thoroughly disgusted and disappointed that avictimnolongers' thread has come to this. Talk about threadjacking, being disrespectful, and slinging mud all over the place. What in the world is wrong with you girls? This is a message board of support - if you treat people you don't know like this, what other kind of anger is in you?
Have you ever heard the old phrase "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" - well, I know sometimes people do need a 2x4 but no one needs this crap.
<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> and if there was an icon for horrified I would have it on here too.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by adgirl48:
<strong> I know no one on here probably cares to hear my opinion, but I am thoroughly disgusted and disappointed that avictimnolongers' thread has come to this. Talk about threadjacking, being disrespectful, and slinging mud all over the place. What in the world is wrong with you girls? This is a message board of support - if you treat people you don't know like this, what other kind of anger is in you?
Have you ever heard the old phrase "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" - well, I know sometimes people do need a 2x4 but no one needs this crap.
<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> and if there was an icon for horrified I would have it on here too. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">avnl: I'm sorry for my part in this. adgirl your right. She was asking some quetions that turned into a war.

GardenBunny

Lonely is one of the many STOW we encounter here and it wouldn't be last time...unfortunately...

All you can do is laugh at their pathetic attempts to defend their position. And this what its all about, Right? They have no position at all. They blame everyone else... they are so insecure with their lives that they have nothing better to do then to interfer with other peoples lives.

And Lonely having the nerve to tell you that YOUR nosey... I find that hysterical...

Bunny you have to realize where they come from... what they are made of... they are not even capable to make rational decisions...

They rob other peoples lives...they are not capable creating a life for themselves...

I know where you are coming from Bunny... but remember...don't let them yank your chain...

Don't waste your energy on people that don't have much depth...

wiz

Adgirl

I think your right but I got a hunch that avictimnolonger is not going to care much....

And I think she can speak up for herself if she has problem with it...

Sometimes..when these STOW show up... its fun to see them squirm...
And in most cases alot of this would not happen if they go back to the hole they belong too.

This is very HOT topic... people get their emotions... all in a knot. I think its never going to change. But I will always side with the women and the children that get their lives torn apart... so if they show their agression here..I don't blame them one bit.

wiz

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 07:27 PM: Message edited by: wizard ]</small>

Wizard,
Kindness leads to repentance.
Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you.
I am sure that avnl can speak for herself- I just spoke up because I was appalled that anyone- BS, WS, OW, ex-OW would act the way some of you have.
I am pretty sure that I KNOW it is a HOT topic- read my tagline.
It isn't like I haven't experienced pain- but beating up on people and namecalling doesn't help anything.

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:03 PM: Message edited by: adgirl48 ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> A soldier? I think you have that confused with DOORMAT. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ha! Woman, I had my H come home and find our marital home packed in boxes and a Land Contract sitting on the table to let him know I bought my own home behind his back. A nice one. I decorated the place like something out of a magazine... and then *I* decided to ALLOW H to move the whole house for me on the notion that I was moving on with my life. I have a house now solely in MY name--- I protected my assets, even vamped up my social life, work-outs and wardrobe-- LOL--- I am SO NOT someone who gloats or is vain towards anyone- but I dont need to be a doormat- thats stereotyping most of us here- we are strong, young and vibrant WOMEN here!!! I am a young and beautiful professional- and oh boy the attention is flowing 24/7... doormat would be me deciding to go for it--or be an OW.. or be too horny to keep my dignity.

The girls here are passionate vixens- get it straight- no doormats- just doing what makes us feel good and what WE WANT -NOT JUST DOING WHAT H WANTS- you have it so twisted LONELY and UNCHEERY! *I* realized how damn hot I was for my H and that *I* needed this man to wrap his big, puerto rican, huge tatooed muscular arms around me and kiss the back of my neck at night and rub my shoulders. And take out the garbage and cook and lay on the bed with our 3 large, mini grown kids and watch football games and have the kids brush my hair-- and my H wrestle w/the kids....
And me and H cracking up making jokes and being silly... ahhh this is what is worth KEEPING and fighting for!!

Love brings pain sometimes! Fighting now while we are young, we have a lifetime to make things right and better!! The ladies here have husbands who mostly are fighing like heck to make it right-- they KNOW we are not like doormatty OWs.

Feeling weak for your OWN HUSBAND, oh boy so doormatty compared to OW- (enter twilight music)

Ladies lets end this argument with these ow's --- its like-- ridiculous to fight with women who CAUSED problems-- and then are bitter towards the person who had no knowledge or consent of this -- twilight again....ARE BITTER towards a BS for defending her husband and family??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

The notion that the unknowing and blindsided wife is the doormat dummy -- at least she has a life of memories, love and commitment (usually) to make it worth it-- insead of fighting and gnashing your teeth over SOMEN else's man?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:49 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

HEY one last thing-- how about this one -

Its a classic....

IF LOVING my MAN is WRONG I don't WANNA BE RIGHT!! EVER!!!! LOL...

I hope Hurt, AVictim- all the great ladies here fighing for their family will not let the garbage people are writing here bother you!

Hey can I get a witness (again)?)

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good night ladies- all of you have a nice evening- geesh lets all say our prayers..

LOL

<small>[ January 23, 2005, 09:51 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

AMEN

<small>[ January 24, 2005, 03:41 PM: Message edited by: angels1966 ]</small>

I missed all the good stuff AGAIN! LOL

When I wrote the bit about arrears vs. letting them go-----------I meant that I THOUGHT that any woman cannot use ARREARS as leverage for custody/signing away rights issues.

I know that she can drop arrears & even drop CS to whatever amount she agrees to (if there is no state/welfare involved). I jsut meant using arrears almost as blackmail.

Just wanted to clear that all up.

Have a great day ladies.

xoxoxoxoxxo
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