I have some questions as to what you guys think. I am wondering what kind of mother XOW is. OC is always well dressed and seems to be a happy baby. Usually cheerful and easy going. My concerns are these:

1. OC is always sick. She's been on medicine every time we've seen her. Her mother keeps a box of meds in her diaper bag. She also doesn't tell us what time OC needs meds unless we ask.

2. OC is 7 months and does not sit up on her own. She doesn't crawl, and rolls over only from her front to her back, or back to front, but not to move as some babies do.

I do not think any of these things are reasons to call CPS. (I know not where I live, because I do deal w/ them for work.) I'm just trying to see if ya'll feel these are valid concerns or do you think I'm overreacting due to the circumstances?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Wife30:
<strong> I have some questions as to what you guys think. I am wondering what kind of mother XOW is. OC is always well dressed and seems to be a happy baby. Usually cheerful and easy going. My concerns are these:

1. OC is always sick. She's been on medicine every time we've seen her. Her mother keeps a box of meds in her diaper bag. She also doesn't tell us what time OC needs meds unless we ask.

2. OC is 7 months and does not sit up on her own. She doesn't crawl, and rolls over only from her front to her back, or back to front, but not to move as some babies do.

I do not think any of these things are reasons to call CPS. (I know not where I live, because I do deal w/ them for work.) I'm just trying to see if ya'll feel these are valid concerns or do you think I'm overreacting due to the circumstances? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey Wife! I think maybe your overreacting due to the circumstances. Although it does sounds as if she holds the baby alot. If the baby is just know rolling over, then the baby is not put in the position to roll over when inteneded too. Also is the baby a little chubby? Why kind of sickness? Ear infections? colds?
I'm going to give you TWO different examples. And if I had not had this baby, I'd probally tink differently than I do now. Okay the twins.....they had there first tooth by the time they were 4 months and mouth full by the time they were 9 months. Both of them were rolling over early and crawling by 5 months. They both walked before and just on there 1st birthday.
They baby!!!!! She cut her first tooth just last month at 9 months. She did start rolling over at 3 months so that was normal. But she just started crawling at 9 months. But.......in just a two week period she not only started crawling but started pulling herself up and walks around the couch....(still only has 2 teeth though <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> ). The twins were never sick the first year of there life. On there first birthday in fact, one came down with an ear infection and they both had them all the time after that until I had there tonsils and adnoids taken out and tubes put in one of there ears. The baby had 7 ear infections in 4 months and I had to have tubes put in her ears last month. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I have a girlfriend whose baby was born the exact same day as mine and he is still not crawling. He does the army scoot everywhere, but is pulling himself up. So you could be over reacting........I would say though that she needs to tell you WHEN he took his meds last. That is more important then knowing when he ate last. That is just stupid. You don't mess with these meds. Has your husband ever thought of going to the doctors too on a sick visit to hear what the ped says? That may help to see what is going on with the baby. I know it's not a man thing to do.......but...............

She sounds a bit similar to the OW in my situation. One of her children always seems to be going to the doctor for one reason or another.

Are you thinking that she may be suffering from "Munchausen's by Proxy", in which the mother gets the attention she needs by claiming her child is constantly ill?

She could just be trying to show your husband how good of a mother she is, in order to boost her self-esteem?

I'm just making a few guesses here...since you deal with CPS, you probably have already considered what I had listed.

You might be overreacting due to the circumstances ...
If not, then I would be on the list for social services ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
Every baby is different developing their motor skills...
My daughter, 15 1/2 months now, started sitting after 7 months on her own, did not crawl until she was 8 months, then started walking really good at 10, now she is running and climbing like a little monkey <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .
Did not have her first tooth until 7 months. Right now only has five out with 5 more coming at the same time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
DD has been sick since she was 4 minths old, with asthma and allergies and just now the teething, it seems that she's been on medicine forever.
Even with all of this, she is a happy and easy going baby with a huge vocabulary for her age ...

But I know where you are coming from, when I see OC, consciously or unconsciously I'm always looking for 'signs' ... and asking WxH what is he doing, does he sit? does he crawls?, is he talking yet? ... the other day when I saw him, I found him light ... does that means that OW is not feeding him well ... no, it's probably that he's going to be skinny ...

IMHO, I do not think that you should be concern.

I do think that she should give us information as far as when OC ate, or took meds, but...

I think maybe I am being a little hormonal. It seems like everything is bothering me about this whole situation the past couple of days, and nothing has really happened. Maybe my pregnancy hormones are playing games w/me.

As you eagerly anticipate your baby's new mobility and achievements, remember that milestones only represent the average age that the average baby accomplishes any given task. As we're sure you're already aware, your child is a unique individual who is likely to be anything but average! Some milestones may be reached early, while he make take his own sweet time mastering others. If you have any concerns about your baby's progress, however, don't hesitate to discuss them with your baby's doctor.

In general, infants between 6 and 9 months old:

Sit unassisted. While many infants start to work on their sitting skills before this age, their ability to sit well (in other words, without tipping over and hurting themselves) takes some time. By 7 months, the average infant can sit while leaning on both hands for support. By a month later, he will progress to sitting alone without support, and by 9 months, most can reliably sit unassisted for longer periods of time.

Start to stand. The timing of this milestone tends to vary greatly from one infant to the next. That said, many infants between 6 and 9 months will begin to bear weight on their feet and legs, and by 9 months or so, may even be able to pull to a stand while holding onto furniture.

Consider crawling. The reason we say "consider" is because while infants are generally capable of pulling themselves along with their arms (some even getting up on their hands and knees) by around 9 months of age, the fact is that there are some infants who never crawl. And while the parents of those infants often are greatly concerned, crawling is not truly a milestone, but rather, it is but one way of assessing whether a child's muscle strength and motor development are developing. If you are concerned about your own baby's lack of interest, discuss it with his pediatrician before spending much time worrying about it!

Babble. During these months, most babies start to vocalize a lot more in ways other than crying, not the least of which is laughing more frequently. You're also likely to notice a progression in your baby's talking abilities--from making four different consonant sounds or stringing together chains of vowel-consonant sounds to combining syllables into word-like utterances and shouting to attract attention.

Develop better control of their actions. Babies this age not only start to imitate actions and intentionally reach for toys placed just out of reach, but they also become more skilled at transferring objects from hand to hand--not to mention banging them on a table! While it may take a couple of months before your baby can easily pick up small objects between his thumb and first finger (known as a pincer grasp), you will probably see your child starting to try.

Aren't fooled by out of sight, out of mind. Six- to 9-month-olds are busy developing a better awareness of the world around them. This includes an ability to understand that objects still exist, even though they are not in sight, a concept known as "object permanence." You may notice examples of this as your 7-month-old starts to look briefly for toys that have "disappeared," instead of just forgetting about them. By around 8 months, he may even purposely drop things to watch where they go, and actually search for toys after seeing them hidden.

May develop stranger anxiety. Along with an increased awareness of their surroundings, some infants this age also develop what is commonly referred to as stranger anxiety. While some 6- to 9-month-olds start showing increased fear of strangers and distress when their parents leave the room, others may not react this way until well after their first birthday. While such reactions are embarrassing to some parents, you should instead consider your baby's actions to be a normal and healthy
--albeit frustrating--part of growing up.


just a little info on baby stages......Being sick all the time, you might want to find out if the baby is around people smoking as second hand smoke increase illness in babies! I think the rest just comes from not wanting her to be a fit mother, after all, we all critisize women our husbands have slept with, I know I have! Doesnt make it right, but maybe it is a part of healing.