Ok I just have to vent a little.

WHAT do OW want?
Honestly are they just ****** that they "lost" the game they played so everyone who was innocent, including their own child, has to suffer and pay for their loss? OW are not happy with C if the BW is around. Their not happy with NC because its just "wrong" but sleeping with a MM was cool!??!! The MM who was a great guy and good enough to get knocked up by but never good enough to father the OC in his own home, again b/c BW is there.
Ok I'm going to be crude here, but other than getting *******, what makes these **'s happy?? I've got to stop reading their self-righteous B.S.!! It makes me sad to be a woman when I hear these OW talk about how great it is being an OW and the BW are the stupid ones for staying with H.

Hey here's a tip for ya.................... BIRTH CONTROL + SELF-CONTROL = NO UNWANTED OC

Oh and just before they go off, the same formula goes for xMM/H too! But hey we have LAWS that hold the men responsible, hence CS, where are their choices? Thank goodness we protect woman's rights so OW can use them to screw over as many people as possible, including their own child.

No responses needed, just need to get it off my chest. These SOWs need to grow up and face the mistake they made just as xMM do.

<small>[ February 03, 2005, 03:38 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Hi Gwenie,

You know you are absolutely right about some of these OW's.

As far as OW's calling us BW's stupid for staying with our H's that's just a way to make themselves feel better b/c their plans backfired on them.

But make no mistake if us BW's decided to leave our H's those same OW's (with no shame) would be right there ready and willing to fill our space.

Basically most OW's are mad b/c us BW's decided to stay and work on our marriages and there's no law against that!!!!!

I guess these OW's should feel lucky that we're in the US.

Did you know that there are actually some foreign
countries where if a woman sleeps with another woman's husband they are severely punished by law.

It's pretty messed up that they would put all the blame on the woman when the H took part in the act as well.

Something like this should be a lesson to these OW's b/c even in our society no one is severely punished by law for adultery or infidelity but when it's all said and done society doesn't look down on the H, it looks down on the OW.

Hence the society given nickname HOME WRECKER

OW'S JUST DON'T GET IT !!!!!

Hi Gwenie

I hear your vent!!!

My grandmother is is quite the little spitfire and at breakfast yesterday morning brought up this question. If oc's born to a ww while still married to her h then he is automatically considered the father, the om forfeits his rights. Then why do ow's get to keep their children? Shouldn't the bw be automatically considered the mother? I had a good laugh at my Nanna, as how many ow's would get pregnant if they had to turn over their child to exmm and his w at birth?? I bet birth control "accidents" would be a thing of the past.

we should come up with a law of some sort that holds OW's accountable(sp?). Because you are RIGHT that the Man gets SCREWED because he has to pay CS to a woman who knew just as much as HE did that she could get pregnant. I think it would pass!?!?!?!?! Any suggestions?

They cancelled the "alienation of affection law", which allowed any mp to sue the op who interfered in their m for damages.

I think it should be re-instated under another name ....any suggestions?

Ooh, a thread that I like. Don't get me started on the "attributes" of an OW!!

A new name for the AOA law? Homewrecker insurance?

Just a thought....

Woooooooo..........um how about the "Go To ****" law....or the "Stinky ***" law....or the "You better have thought twice" law....or the "You thought you won, but HAHA, YOU DIDN'T" law...or the "How do you feel now that you are single with a child" law?

<small>[ February 04, 2005, 02:25 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

I don't know about your ow????? But I sure was held accountable. I took on my responsiblty and took it seriously. I pay for all my daughters needs and if and when xmm chooses to pay 1/2 of her medical great........if not well, is it worth taking him to court for 50.00 that month that he owes on top of the other? I'm not sure where you went to read, but geez...........do you really think ow don't take there position seriously with there children? Do you really feel that us "xow" don't take responsbilty for our children? The C versus nc is an old thing. It will ALWAYS be a debate no matter what. I know that I work my butt off every day to make sure I keep a roof over my kids head and meet there needs. I was doing it before xmm was even paying any amount of cs. I don't think there is a mother around (or very few anyways by what I read) that does not take there role of parenthood seriously. I don't care if your a mw bw ow xow sw whatever.........you may work outside or inside of the home, but the biggest challenge and most rewarding challenge and achievment is our children. Sunny is a perfect example of that with what she's going through. We move mountains for our kids and no matter what it takes to do it we do it. It is probally the most toughest job we as woman have as well. There are very few men in this world that can even fanthom what we feel to the core regarding our children. It's just physics. In situations that we are in with the emotional aspect of the affair and added with an oc it just spews our feelings and emotions out in a way that is way out there. bw and xow/ow alike. We don't agree on things and we see things differently than each other because of which side of the fence we are on. I'm sure that most will bash me for this, but at this point in my life, the affair is nothing to me. I know it was wrong, and I would never for the life of me ever do it again with any mm, but it's a moot point now. My child is all that matters. They are still making it about "ME". I'm making it about my daughter. She had surgery last month....I never called or wrote them about it. He has nothing to do with her, so why bother? Her first word.........dada <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> . But luckily I know that she has no idea what she is saying and although it hurt that mama was not the first word, I know she is just babaling.
Gwenieinabottle do you really want to know what this xow wants? I want peace and a life without having to deal with stupid legal deals. I want my kids to grow up good and right and have things I did not have growing up. I want to provide for them so when they are ready for college I can help them with that. I want my kids to be happy and content (which they are) but to stay that way always. I want all three of my kids to stay healthy and not ever have to go through anything tramatic or termanal. I don't have a husband at home but one day I want them to see there mom happy with someone and still have my little family intact and happy with no problems to deal with that are way to overwhelming. They see me happy now, but you know what I mean. I want my daughter who has to one day deal with this that her father and i created for her to know that even though "we" were a mistake, she's not. She is a blessing and a joy to me and our family and wanted. I can't take back the past, but I can learn from the past and make a better present and future. Sometimes I think that because we are going through things either be legal or emotional that you take us wrong. I have no problem with xmm having nc. It's purley selfish of me. I'm the first to admit that, but if he were to ever change his mind, well I would have to abide with that....I would have no choice. The point is I made choices and have to live with them and take what may come with that..........the same with xmm.

You cannot expend energy on something YOU can't change.

Just my opinion....

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<small>[ February 04, 2005, 12:45 PM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>