Well, our paternity results are in and H is the father of OC. (exactly what we were expecting but always had that little bit of hope that they'd be favorable towards XOW's H)

Even though we expected I still just want to cry. Guess it's that proof in hand on paper slapping me in the face.

H and I are supposed to discuss what to do tonight. Decisions have to be made now. I'm so not looking forward to it...

Just {{{{{{{{{{{michele)))))))))))

Thanks Nerly. That's what I need right now!

Hi Michelle,

Sorry for your pain <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

But I do know what you're feeling.
When my H told me about his A it seemed like a dream, like it didn't really register right away.

But when those paternity test results came <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

The results arrived by mail and my H gets home from work before I do.

As soon as I put my key in the door and opened it my H came running to the front door and hugged me like he didn't want to let go.

Of course I'm thinking " what's wrong ".
I walk into the living room and put my things down. My H looks like he's been crying and I ask what's wrong. He looks at the coffee table and there is an envelope.

That's when I knew the OC was his. It was then that I really started to feel the sadness that came with this whole ordeal.

It was THE FINAL CONFIRMATION

{{{{Michelle}}}}}

Your in my prayers, stay as strong as you have been.

SG

Hugs,Hugs and more Hugs. You will make !!!!

You poor thing I feel for you.

I had the results which blew me away in hand and i had to keep it to myself for a whole day as not to ruin my husbands contract negotiations for him, a lot of employees where counting on him and I had to be strong for all of them.

I wanted to die, but couldnt say or do a thing.

I know it is like a big punch in the stomach! especially in my case I was convinced there was NO way in heck that it was my husband's child.

{{{{{hugs & lean on us}}}}}

(((((Michele))))))

I remember that day so well. It's a horrible, stomach-punch sensation.

You'll get through this, Honey. Be kind to yourself. Eventually you'll be 6y down the road like I am, and life will go on.

Hang in there.
J

Michelle,

You will make it through it!! Just remember that you come first. I'm sorry for having to go through this. I'm sure it hurts. We have yet to get paternity but like you, I'm 100% sure its my H's. ****HUGS****

There really is nothing like getting that final piece of reality related to the affair. The OC was 10 months old before we got the results. My xWS thought it might not be his because he didn't think the OW was faithful to him. ( <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )I just went numb. Of course we all held out hope...even if very little..that this part of our nightmare would be gone. This would be the hardest part to heal...to make peace with. It's another loss of hope about some aspect of the affair. And I don't know about you, but I got darn tired of constantly "losing" parts of my marriage and husband to the whole situation!

Take good care of yourself. This is a tough stepping stone in our desire to heal.