Well Ladies I'm back. I thought 2 months ago my OC problems were over because she had a miscarriage. H moved out of the House the End on Jan. Was out a week and discovered that he couldn't live without me. He hasn't move back in yet but we have been working on things.

Last night I finally got up the nerve to ask him how much he was still talking to the OW. He said that they talk a couple times a week to discuss things. I asked what and he said she is still PG. The rug has just been pulled out from under me again. The way the sory goes she was PG with twins (What are the Odds!) In Dec. she lost one. On Jan. 1 H found out she was still PG. He has the nerve to come back and say he's sorry and lie to me for almost 2 months! He said he didn't tell me because she aked him not to beacuse she was afraid I would tell her H. reason #2 he didn't want to tell me about until they knew what they were going to do (keep it etc.) Well she won't get an abortion now because she is too far along to take a pill and they told her how they do. If she would have taken care of it in the first place instead of dreaming of the little fantasy life she was going to have with my H, she would be in this mess now.

This is all so unreal. It seems that everything in this awful mess that could go wrong has. Sorry for the pity me party but I am just so tired of getting my hopes up and then being let down. I'm not asking for advice since I have already been down this road once. I just needed to get it off my chest.

B.~

I am so sorry. I am with you, sick of the lies. I don't know why people can not just be honest.

Brandy, if you have the means to tell her H I'd do it. I learned a long time ago that OW wanting BS's to keep their secrets for their H's protection is bogus crap. I didn't tell OW's H about her first P (which she aborted) because she had asked me not to because he was too sensitive and wouldn't take it well. Well piss on her because I gave her a few days of keeping her dirty little secret and then I told him. She wasn't concerned about her H's feelings, she was just trying to cover her A**. Tell him. Let her deal with the consequences she's caused in her own household. There were plenty of other instances in my situation where OW would tell my H "secrets" about herself thinking they wouldn't get back around to her H, but of course it eventually came out and more times than not I was the bearer of bad news to her H. Not an ideal situation, but screw her!

If you dont tell the other womans husband, you are enabling your husband to continue his relationship with her and have the affair. Why cant you tell the other womans husband all about it? What stops you. Had you told him earlier his wife was having sex with your husband he might have convinced her to abort. too late on that but still tell him the truth. the husband has a right to know.

You're right I don't belive this if he wanted back into a relationship with you he should have been honest when you gave him the chance. If he is this good at keeping secrets can you really trust him and itr sounds to me like he was more concerned about her feelings than yours. I am so sorrythat this has resurfaced but the truth of the matter is if he came back into this M with no intention of allowing you to be a part of this decision is he really in it because he wants to be or just for the security your M provides him ?

Here is a little more about my story. I did tell her H the fist time this happened. They were in the process of a D when this all happened. She wanted it all kept from her H because he was fighting for full custody of their kid. When I told him they had just started with court. I am sure that is why she wanted it all kept quiet about the second one. i know that this is a very awful thought, but that is the way I feel. I keep wishing that she would meet an untimely death with a bus! It is sad to think that this awful woman is a mother and is about to have another. I keep wondering why it was me that fell on the ice a few weeks ago and not her. I keep wondering how I could have been such an idiot to believe him. I don't understand why he keeps protecting her. I really just wnat it all to be over. He siad we could talk about it tonight if I want. I don't even know where to begin with him. I keep asking myself if it is even worth it or should I just walk away and nerver look back.

I am so sorry you're going through some of the same emotions I am right now. It is extremely tough and it is even harder to decide to walk away from someone you love. I am definitely leaning that way right now, but it is hard.