Yes, my xWS was at the birth of the OC. I knew he was going to be ahead of time. We were living separately then but supposedly working on reconciliation. We were still legally married. What really pi$$ed me off was that I heard about the birth from a friend, not him. Mind you we were having regular contact at the time! I must admit that i loved the look on his face the next time he came over and I handed him a "Congratulations on you new son!" card. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I also handed him a "In Deepest Sympathy" card for the OC. Wanted the OC to know that I was sorry for him having such crappy circumstances and parents!!!!! (not that the OC would ever really see the card)

Their son was born with Down Syndrome. The x told me that I was the first person he wanted to talk to when he found out, because he knew I would understand how it felt and comfort him. (I had a son from a previous marriage who was born with a birth defect.)For some reason his 21 year old OW (he was 47) didn't have the maturity to be supportive. Can't imagine that!!!!

I hated it that he would be there with her at such an intimate time! We never had any children together. But let's be real folks...he was there with her at a very intimate time when the child was conceived!!! And, I don't really think that the delivery room was the first time he ever saw her vagina! I did have to kind of chuckle though about that. I remember him saying how when he was at the birth of his child from his first wife, after seeing the baby being delivered up close and alive...it grossed him out! Said he never saw his wife quite the same again when it came to sex. Oh well!!!!

My H was NOT @ the delivery, he did not even know OC was born. The A ended abruptly when OW said she 'needed to talk to him'-----the dreaded reality check! more like check-mate! After that conversation they never spoke or saw each other again.

Until.....OW legally contacted him to have OC name changed (first & last name! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> wierd!) That is when I found out. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> OC was 6 mos. old, we guessed OC was 9 mos....H had NO idea how old OC would be or if OC was ever born, boy or girl...nothing until that time.

Once the A ended----he never looked back.

Good thing we were both patient enough to stick it out becuase, honestly, I sure wasn't giving him much to look forward too once I found out! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

oh well! All's well that end's well! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thank God, ALL that's behind us! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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