Oh, I'm so sorry. I guess what I don't understand is if she doesn't want him, why is he trying to make that relationship work? I don't see anything wrong with him doing things around the house even though you are going to file. As long as when he is over, you aren't there or you are very short with him. I mean, he owes you SOMETHING and if fixing the house is what he is doing, well, LET HIM DO IT! I can see where some people are coming from by just getting rid of him 100%. Only because it has to be painful to have him there fixing things and you think, well if that is what he is doing, why can't we make things work out?
As for you thinking it wouldn't work because of everything, well that is what happens when there is an A. There is a large piece lost throughout the whole process from begginning to end. Then you are left with a missing piece that will either NEVER be found or take a while to find to make things better. I think in regards to those that make things work, there is always a missing piece. No matter how much people say that are happy and fixing things, the damages of an A are ALWAYs THERE! I know I love my H more then anything BUT there are always triggers which I don't think will ever go away. Like today, I thought I smelled cologne and I was a little antsy when I smelled it. Then I realized that it was the new deoderant I bought him. I do trust him (not 100% because that takes time) that he wouldn't do anything but its just the insecurities that I'm left with.
Working through the emotions are SO HARD. There are days you wake up and think, I can do this and I'm as strong as an ox but the littlest thing can spend you spiraling back into the dark side of dealing with the effects of an A. I've been there, trust me. I still have moments like that too. Then there are days where you wake up and you know it isn't going to be a good day. You just want to stay under the covers hoping that when you get up, everything will be perfect. But then you realize that well, it isn't and you eventually have to get up. I'm over the "staying under the sheets" days but I know they exist with the newly broken hearted.
Now with you being pregnant, you really have to make decisions on what part you want him playing in your little one's life and let him know. He hurt you and YOU are now the one that has the control with things. Be strong honey. Things DO get easier. I remember someone told me that during the summer and I thought, what the HELL does that person know. Well its been 10 months and it has. I adore my H and the OC. take care!
