Hmmmm......

Where has Lynne been supportive of contact? She's the first to come out and practically shout, "NO CONTACT!!! PAY CHILD SUPPORT!! TOO BAD FOR OC!!"

I must have missed her being supportive of contact. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I am sure you will advise.

thanks,
ent

ent...maybe you DID miss it! Lynng SUPPORTS THE MARRIAGE.

She gives ehr personal story & personal opinions on why she THINKS NC is best AND THEN she tells newbies to think about what THEY want & what will be best for THIER MARRIAGE.

NOT best for OC, not best for OW, not best for H, BEST FOR THE MARRIAGE.

When C is chosen then she advises to do it all legal, how H has rights, can get joint custody, 50/50 time share ect.


She encourages nebies to take action not JUNK, to protect themselves & their families to POJA & not let H try to force his way & also reminds them that they cannot force their way---it must be an agreement.

xoxox
kt

ent....it's not your pro-contact stance that offends people here, there are plenty of other wives who have contact and present that side of the issue without alienating people...it's the sarcasm and disrespect you use when you talk to folks. If you're mistaken for an OW...it's because you appear discompassionate and combative...as some OWs can be to wives.

Don't think so....

I y'am what I y'am....in the words of the wise Popeye!!

Not a wallflower...don't yes sir people....I am PASSIONATE!!!!

HUGE DIFFERENCE!!! I am passionate in MY beliefs. If my beliefs are disconcerting...well..then they are. For the most part I am not being mean OR sarcastic.

ent

entwifejr,

Perhaps, it's that there is a marked passion about opinions that differ from yours about no contact. You've pulled out scripture and everything else to prop up your position, when really, what you have is a great experience that worked for you. But this is not a one-size-fits-all solution and you could go a long way in respecting that.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KaylaAndy:
<strong> entwifejr,

You've pulled out scripture and everything else to prop up your position, when really, what you have is a great experience that worked for you. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See....that is what I mean. Prop? Maybe I am reading this wrong, and I have been known to do that. But why should I have to explain myself and be "attacked" for MY opinions. I am PRO marriage. I wouldn't be in my marriage for so long if I didn't believe in it.

ent

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by entwifejmr:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by KaylaAndy:
<strong> entwifejr,

You've pulled out scripture and everything else to prop up your position, when really, what you have is a great experience that worked for you. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See....that is what I mean. Prop? Maybe I am reading this wrong, and I have been known to do that. But why should I have to explain myself and be "attacked" for MY opinions. I am PRO marriage. I wouldn't be in my marriage for so long if I didn't believe in it.

ent </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Are you being attacked? Or are you attacking?
Are you pro-marriage? Does your position on how to "be married" diminish Lynn's pro-marriage?

Can we agree that there are different ways to be happily married and recovered from a situation and that your way worked well for you, congratulations are in order, but may not work best for other people here?

And if so, can you stop attacking others for their offerings of solutions that should be considered equal in merit to yours?

Oh Ent, get a clue. I have NEVER told anyone, NOT to have contact. I state why I think it is not a good idea. And state why.

Actually, you are a good example of why NOT to have contact. I have never quite figured out if you are trying to persuade us how great it is,or yourself. Cause you have not one little bit of care or concern for any BW. The only time you come here is to either whine about the plight of the oc or to defend an OW. If this is what contact creates, I am sure we can all decipher how damaging and twisted it is for you. Look at how much you hate wives here? How little regard you have for people who make the choice of no contact. Always looking out for the ow/oc and never once considering what the bw/bc want or need.

You wonder why people distrust you? HMMMMMM

<small>[ March 02, 2005, 11:11 PM: Message edited by: entwifejmr ]</small>

<small>[ March 02, 2005, 11:07 PM: Message edited by: entwifejmr ]</small>

Here we go again.....

"If this is what contact creates, I am sure we can all decipher how damaging and twisted it is for you. Look at how much you hate wives here?"

Geez Lynne...can't you come up with a NEW twist? This one is sooooo old!!


Try again,
ent

sorry....double post

<small>[ March 02, 2005, 11:08 PM: Message edited by: entwifejmr ]</small>

Uh, back to RCP's initial point: I agree that some (SOME) of the OW who visit here do not belong and have not reason to be here. They hurt, rather than help in many cases.

But they'll keep coming back....

RCP, what is sxf? Email me.

~ Snow

<small>[ March 04, 2005, 05:03 PM: Message edited by: Snowbelle ]</small>