<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .....my husband is a selfish coward and when faced with an ultimatum, he made the decision to do what was easiest for HIM........yada yada were all [censored]-parents......yada yada BW MADE WH choose NC.......it is just TOO funny!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


GOD will they ever STOP blaming MM and the BW for THEIR lot in life, Will they ever admit that they had choices too and made some bad ones. NO BW can force a WH into NC and if he loved the OW then he WOULD be with OW.

Think OW can admit that MM might consider them a BIG HUGE mistakes, easy sluts and in truth didn't mean **** to MM and the MM NEVER EVER meant to make you a mother for an illegitimate embarrassment.

Sorry to OW here! I like a lot of OW and feel for some of them. When THEY can take a look at their own doings in an A and not blame MM for everything either.

It took TWO to screw up here OW and BH alike and neither one gets off scott free!! Quit blaming MM because you and your OC don't mean as much to him as you thought! Thats YOUR fault for believing in the lies of an A and MM's fault for believing you when you said you couldn't/wouldn't get pregnant! Cash your CS check and SHUT UP!!!!

Gwenie you are hilarious <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Gwenie,

As quickly as I would drop-kick an OW for abusing this site, I don't find that you add anything either with this little love-fest.

I'm married to an

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> easy slut</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">and am raising

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">an illegitimate embarrassment. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I suggest that if you don't have any constructive MarriageBuilding advice to offer, or if you're not asking for MB directives to make your marriage better---refrain from posting here.

Hilarious you are not.

double post

<small>[ March 03, 2005, 04:20 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

Gwenie--- see... now YOU got me checking the board that I dont check anymore really----- and THEN I see what you see--- and its all hogwash and double standard, PERIOD!

CERTAIN OW believe that NC is OKAY and VIABLE IF and only IF it works for the MOTHER of OC BWAAAAA! WHAT A HOOT.

AND, that the mother of the child is the ONLY ONE SUITED to make the decision of C or NC-- WHY? DO THESE NEWBORNS TELL their mothers this INFO in between sh*tting and screaming?

Gwenie, what THE OW WHO write this garbage DONT MENTION IS THAT WE HAVE CHILDREN TO PROTECT THAT WE GAVE BIRTH TO. AND THEY DONT HANDLE THIS WELL--- WHICH equals (duh) We need to protect OUR family.

DUH DUH DUH DUH -- when the F can this register??
THEY SAY suck it up and DEAL. MAKE IT WORK for the child-- GUESS WHAT-- I AM, MY CHILD! I have no choice, thats just the hand I was dealt by xow and H.

This is not a situation where everyone can win and get what they want. And that INCLUDES OC-- OC'S life is NO MORE PRECIOUS THAN MY LIFE, MY CHILDRENS LIVES -- get it???? I am not a child-- but I MATTER TOO -- I love me- and I CANNOT do C now-- why must we suffer and lose our family for OC's comfort thru life. It can't happen here, not now!

We all get a nasty, sloppy piece of that "hurt pie" as Lynn G's words ring thru my ears!!!!

No matter what any OW/MM did, etc-- the MM IS NOT SUPERMAN and he does not possess special powers to make all of us live happily ever after. NONE of us do.

Name calling is not something I like, either. However, how many years are you into recovery, K?
Have you ever felt that your own wife was a sl*t when you were raw? Have you ever felt the OM was a (*(^*%&^(& when you were raw, and did you express that to anyone?

I bet you did. I felt my own H was a sl*t, himself. Not anymore, but I love him so I got over it quicker than I did for the OW in the beginning.

Gwenie, please try to relay your feelings without using certain words that hurt others--- so that K can stay where he was before. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ March 03, 2005, 04:33 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

To the strong wonderful posters on P/C...

On P/C Forum we have to walk a VERY fine line.

I do understand and acknowledge the need to vent,,,to strike out and cry at the hand we've been dealt. I understand the need for a firm shoulder and a warm hug when it seems like your world is crashing around you.

However,,on P/C we have numerous hurting and sensitive members on both sides of the fence. We have BH's (as evidenced in this thread) that are hurt and offended by posts degrading the xOW or FWW. We have BW's that cringe when they hear negative insulting comments about xMM or FWH's. And the hurts go on and on. We have FWW or xOP dealing with their own shame and/or remorse.

Please, let's TRY to be sensitive to the pain of others (ALL others) in our threads. I'm NOT saying no venting but try to apply it to YOUR personal situation only, rather than making "general" statements that tend to possibly apply to others.

Let's get on with the Marriage Building!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

OOOOOHHHH! You're good Justuss!
Real good! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
xoxoxo
kt

Thank you Justuss. Thank you K.