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Is C possible while in NC W/OW? #842121 03/08/05 10:44 AM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ... F faithful follower Member
faithful follower Member F Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ...	Has anyone successfully kept NC with OW while having C with OC? That is the only acceptable scenario for my WH to stay in our home at this point. He feels a moral responsibility to this OC (if it is indeed his) and I respect that. But the addiction to the OW is such that I will not stay M'd to WH unless NC with the OW.

Re: Is C possible while in NC W/OW? #842122 03/08/05 10:47 AM
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Jenny Member J Joined: Mar 1999 Posts: 2,430	If xow will agree to you or a third party doing pick-ups and deliveries, that would be no-contact. It could be arranged by court or mediator. J

Re: Is C possible while in NC W/OW? #842123 03/08/05 11:13 AM
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aVictimNoLonger Member A Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 243	I agree, it can be arranged through the courts, but I wouldn't bet on OW agreeing to it unless the courts make it mandatory. We haven't gotten a hearing yet, it will be scheduled later next month. I am sort of upset that my H won't be more firm about NC with XOW. He doesn't want to "lose OC" again. It's causing problems. OW refuses to allow C with OC without being immediately involved in everything. IMO most XOWs won't. It just makes everything infinitely harder. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Re: Is C possible while in NC W/OW? #842124 03/08/05 11:22 AM
Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ... F faithful follower Member
faithful follower Member F Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 11,539 la la land aka land of fruits ...	That is what I was afraid of. OW's goal is to be M'd to my WH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I don't see that happening even if I D my WH. If OW will be that difficult then she is setting up OC to have no daddy. Whose loss is that? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Re: Is C possible while in NC W/OW? #842125 03/08/05 11:26 AM
Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 243 A aVictimNoLonger Member
aVictimNoLonger Member A Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 243	Yes, in my sitch, XOW is (and always will be, I'm afraid) madly in love with my WH. She does everything she can to keep herself tied to him in one way or another. I live everday of my life knowing that by accepting my H's choice for contact I may be sealing the fate of my marriage. I have to trust that my H isn't going to choose to end our marriage. Shaky ground. Hugs, AVNL

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