So one of my recruiters just told me about a position at a company right across the street from NotTooLost's office. A slight pay cut, and a small step back careerwise, but what a blessing that would be for carpooling, lunches, etc. There are a handful of other opportunities -- my favorite is a VERY interesting, well-paying one in West Palm Beach. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Of course without NTL's enthusiastic support for moving -- understandable given all our family ties around here -- we're looking just in our area for now.

Three weeks of NC, and it's still going well. OW pulled a slight ambush (slight because my boss must have known about it, since he was here) by being in the office yesterday when she was not supposed to be. Fortunately I saw her car in the parking ramp, pulled right out and called my boss to tell him I wouldn't be in. I was able to get my work done remotely, and that was that. Flukeboy is still funneling me need-to-know work information via email. I am definitely counting down the remaining days of having to be at this place. Only four, wow!

<small>[ March 16, 2005, 02:23 PM: Message edited by: Lost71 ]</small>

A pat on the back and a big hug go out to you Lost. (((Lost))) So glad you're finally getting your life in order.

Good for you!!!!

I can imagine how hard all this has been although when it´s written here it sounds so simple.
But the rewards will come....

Hoepfully the job thing will work out.

Keep up the good work. I always check on you so you better not disappoint me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Lost,

That's such a wonderful opportunity to get away from the xOW! Especially since she's still pulling her garbage at work! You and Mrs. Lost are heading in the right direction, keeping NC at the top of the list.

Keep up the good work, and prayers that your job opportunities remain clear for where you need to be!

Thanks for the update!

Tigger

You just dont know how happy I am for you and the MRS! You are doing everything every BS wishes their WS would do! you are awesome Lost! I know you guys will make it! Cheers to you and NTL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Thanks for the encouragement, everyone. Things really are going amazingly well, to the point that I am concerned and attentive about the pace of everything for NTL. I told her, and I truly believe, that if one of her biggest ENs right now is "time" that I'm happy to provide it. Harder some moments than others, but frankly patience is one of the personal growth opportunities I seek from all this. The desire for immediate gratification has ultimately caused nothing but suffering throughout my life in every context.

A few more job opportunities surfacing as time passes and I work my network of friends etc. in town. Every time I go through a job search, I relearn that in my field it's a four to six week process when it goes quickly. Again, patience and faith are the answers.

Thanks again, everyone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Prayers to you Lost and NTL. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Just wanting to update all, we have done 2 phone sessions w/ Jennifer Harley Chalmers which have moved us quickly through some tough stuff and we have the 3rd one scheduled for Tuesday. Lost is still living at his sister's house, but we are spending our time together the waking hours available. (Well, and maybe a few non-waking hours too)... I would say we are in the early stages of recovery at this point. I would say it's been 2 weeks since we turned the corner, and things are going well. I'll have to read more of the recovery board, as I'm sure our problems/issues are universal there.

His job is winding down over the next 2 weeks (4 more workdays to go! None w/ OW)

OW & Lost's boss saw us out to lunch last week, and of course OW left a cell phone message for Lost telling him that if she had only known he was going back to me, it would have made his breakup w/ her so much easier. Yeah, right. She's always been a real supporter of our M. Uh-huh. I'm sure if he had just, "I want to work on my M" she would have just let it go, yeah.

The Flukes have been great help to us both, working through some of the issues of recovery.

I'm optimistic. I don't know when we'll move back together, combine the $, or I'll officially pull the divorce proceedings - I just feel in my gut that I want to give it more time. But that's okay. I experienced a lot of feelings of feeling rushed or pressured, and one of the things Lost can do to meet my EN is give me time and space.

We did our EN questionnaires and shared them last night; pretty insightful & helpful. I sure think the Harley's have a great thing going here - we'll keep you posted!

Lost and NTL,

I'm very happy for you both and wish you all the best in your recovery. It is also very helpful to those of us who aren't there yet to have both your sides.

Keep being optimistic because you can do this...