OC called Wednesday night. Hubby was not here. OC left her name and phone number and I assured her he would call her. I called him on his cell and he came right home and called her. I was a nervous wreck.
She asked if she could meet him. He told her she was welcome in our house any time and for her to get her mom's OK and WE would pick her up and bring her here.
I was nervous, one of my children knows nothing about oc, but I knew the day would come.
Ten minutes later we got a call from OW. She was SCREAMING that OC would not be coming to our house, that H would dam well meet her when and where she ( OW ) said, that I was to be no where around and that H, OW and OC would be the only ones at the meeting.
H told OW no, that it would not happen that way, that he was sorry she was preventing OC from meeting him but when she got old enough to do it without OW's consent he would meet her then.
OC called from school yesterday and H explained to her that he wanted to meet her but her mother was not comfortable with the situation ( no finger pointing or name calling )and that when she was older we would set something up.
I feel so sorry for this child. We are willing but as usual OW thinks of no one but herself. It is not like OC is a small child, in a few more years her mom will have no say over what she does.

That is so terrible, it is such a shame that some of these women NEVER grow up & look past their own scorned, rejected, & bitter feelings & think of their child & put his/her needs first.

Thank God soon she will soon be old enough to see her father w/o her mother's interference.

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Oh WOW Jtigger!

The call must have been a shock.

I'm so happy your H stuck to your POJA.

It's too bad OW had to go bonkers. Control game. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I feel bad for you guys and the OC, but maybe it's best for the time being. You need some time to tell your child who doesn't know. It's no fun to be in a situation where you feel forced to reveal something you may not have planned to reveal for awhile.

Like you said, a few more years and she won't need her mom's consent.

In the meantime, you and your H were very cordial to her. She'll remember that. Her mom can b**ch all she wants and try to turn things around, but this girl has now spoken to both of you and knows you both welcome meeting her.

Keep the faith.

It was a shock. But I knew we would get the call one day.
H and I are going to sit our child down this weekend and break the news. I don't know what will happen in the next few weeks.

Keeping u guys in prayer.

WOW... !!

How old is OC?

How old is your child?

Was NC established years ago because of your wishes, OW's wishes, H's wishes... etc? Just really curious about your story and why OC called out of the blue-- then OW acted like OC did this on her own?????

How long has it been since you had to deal w/OW ?

Sorry to ask so many questions JTigger-- I'm just very interested in how these things come about out of the blue? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Are you ready to tell your child, are you nervous?

H decided NC before I ever knew about affair. OW gave him the choice all or nothing, so he took nothing. I never wanted contact, especially the first few years. But I knew one day it would come, and in all fairness the child has a right to meet her father.
Besides trying to drag us back to court on a regular basis to grab more cs, ow has pretty much left us alone. Especially since she had to pay us back that wad of money.
OW is 12. My youngest is 16.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> OW is 12. My youngest is 16.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No offinse, I laughed when I first read this.


I hope things work out. To bad for OC that the mother has to be this way. At least she knows that her father wants to meet her, its her mothers putting a stop to it

Sorry about that.
I guess I was thinking OW ACTS 12.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Jtigger:
<strong> Sorry about that.
I guess I was thinking OW ACTS 12. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LOL. That is funny. Wow.......I know you had to have been shocked. You know what that is so sad that ow will not just let you guys meet her. It's not like she's a year old or anything. She's 12! I'm praying for you too. Really if you think about it too, if this were to go to court, the Judge would make ow let this child see you. I think in any state ( I could be wrong though) at a age like this they can even choose where they live. Good luck with your child.....16 is a sensitive time.