This can drive you crazy can't it!! Well after yesterday, we pretty much spent the day together, he left and called later that evening, came over and spent the night. That was tuff, one good thing I FINALLY SLEPT SINCE THIS ORDEAL BEGAN. I was going to say we "made love", I take that back, we had sex, I told him I loved him and silence. I then asked him if this was just a test to see whom he wanted, hmmm is what he said. Called me about a million times today and then he called to tell me that he was moving back in tonight cuz the friend he was staying with was having problems with him staying there. He says I will sleep in the empty room or what ever you want. Boy am I confused once again??? Hasn't said I love you, but baby this and baby that. I guess i am feeling used once again, if he had told me I WANT to move back in and make this work fine, but hes doing it cuz he has to. I just don't know what to do or think. I did buy him a V-card. FRIENDLY one, no I love yous etc... Just that I'm here if he needs to talk etc etc. thought that was appropriate. can ANYONE make sense of this or is there no sense in any of these situations?? I feel exhausted from the effort. I will just die when I get back home after my daughters soccer game and he has gone to spend time with the ow for V-day. I will head to the gym and take it out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!

I don't know your whole story but he sounds confused. I guess you could look at it this way. If you are trying to save the marriage, at least he doesn't live with OW like a lot of other betrayers. <P>This will be an opportunity for you in some ways. Don't push for answers if he is confused, he just might get more confused.<P>IS your story posted anywhere??