Should Cat and I be doing things as a family while we are separated? Just curious if anyone has any experience with it. I went Sunday to give kids and Cat there Valentine's gifts and stayed to cook dinner. Later that night, Cat said our oldest D was upset that no one talked at dinner. Lack of talking was my fault really, guess I expected a little something for V-day, but got zippo. Just a little down.<BR>Anyway, I turned down a request to go to dinner w/ Cat and the kids last night and a request to go to a concert at the university. No, she's not desperate to see me, she prefaced each with a "don't read anything into this". I tend to get my expectations high and usually get smacked down. I did want to go to each but a) didn't want the kids to get their hopes up or b)didn't want me to get my hopes up.

Hello,<BR> Yes, do things together as a family! Use those opportunities to show your wife what she will lose if she chooses to continue on the "separated" path. While my H and I were separated(2 months),he was here at home every weekend. I did not LB and didn't bring up the affair.Having his family together during these times made him realize what he was missing,and how good it could be and how much his kids needed us to be together. I know it hurts. I would cry every Monday morning when he left to work, knowing he wouldn't be back until the next weekend.He asked sometimes if I would rather he not spend time with us on the weekends,but I always told him to come on over.Besides, the kids 13,9 and 6 did not want to go with him to the place he was living,they didn't want their lives disrupted. That helped,as it made it clear to him how difficult it would be if he decided to divorce. Do you have the kids or does she? Hang in there and use those times to make love bank deposits! Good luck to you!

Yes, by all means do things as a family. If you are struggling with interactions with her, put an extra effort into doing things with your children in her presence. Let her observe you be a good father to her(and yours) children. Be as upbeat as possible. When you part, tell your wife how you enjoyed the time together. When she asks you to do things with her and the children, accept enthusiastically. Take the initiative and plan things to do as a family and invite her along. Don't miss these opportunities to spend time together and build your love for each other.