<BR>My husband is now living back at homeand says he has no contact with her, but she is still in his heart and he says his felings for her are not fading, he refuses to touch me, not even hold my hand, because after all it's not me he loves anymore, My biggest fear s that if we do not start to emotionall connect again satan will hold her in his heart and his lust for her(it can't be love, marriage is a blood convenant with God and she is satan's way of winning and destroying our marriage and family) will grow and become stronger making it even harder for us to reunite our marriage and make it whole and happy again Is this even a valid question, I'm so lost and confused lately, he says he needs time, but my fear is giving him the time and he'll never reach for me again. Leaving it all on the alter for God to take care of is sometimes easier said than done. The tongue is our worst enemy sometimes and holding mine is almost impossible lately. I told him I could put her behind me, but it is so hard to do when she is still in his heart and emotionally lays between us at night.Please someone pray for me and tell me what I should do

Regina,<P>It's sounds like you know what to do. Hold your tongue, don't be spiteful. Make sure he stays away from OW. Be patent, but not demanding. In time he will re-discover his love for you.<P>Good luck.

Regina,<P>It sounds like you are on the right track. I know how hard it is to have somebody at home when their heart and mind are elsewhere. I have been dealing with it in varying degrees for about 5 months now. I will openly admit that I have stumbled in my plan A but have overall been patient and loving. We are starting to feel more like "us" now and that is very nice. My husband has daily contact through work with the OW and that makes it more difficult. <BR>Over the months I have come to see Plan A as being less about my H and more about me. It is being the best me possible and presenting that to my H. Sometimes it is "hiding" my feelings but more than that it is clining to the love from my H that I hope to attain instead of clinging to the here and now.<BR>I will keep you in my prayers and think of you when I light my MB candle.(I have to light it a lot my 2 year old and 4 year old LOVE to blow out candles).<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Regina,<P>Have you checked out the women's bible study?<BR>Go to the forums summary page, scroll down about 3/4 of the way down and you will see it. We are working through "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. Check it out there is a lot of prayer support and emotioanal support there as well.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Regina,<P>Do <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Plan A: Avoid angry outbursts, disrespectful judgments, selfish demands, annoying behavior and dishonesty (i.e. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busters</A>!) at all costs. (page 75 of SAA)...<B>and</B> at the same time, if your spouse would let the you, you should try to meet your spouse's most important <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A>. (page 77 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>If you need some inspiration... check out my ===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A>.<P>Praying for you... <P>Jim

Regina,<P>I know everything you said is true. But, you do have a covenant relationship with your husband, and you have God on the side of restoring your marriage.<P>Check out the women's bible study forum, and all the links NSR posts. <P>God Bless You,<BR>TNT

Regina,<P>You will be in my prayers. I can relate to a lot of the things you wrote. <P>Stac<P>------------------<BR>Jaded Heart<BR>____________<P> <A HREF="http://journeys.webprovider.com" TARGET=_blank>http://reflect.to/journeys</A> <P> <P><p>[This message has been edited by jadedheart (edited February 17, 2000).]

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