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<BR>What medicines are used for compulsive thinking? I cant stop thinking about my wife possibly having an affair even though she had firmly denied it for months. That's why I am here.
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LHC,<P>Are your thoughts <B>irrational</B> (i.e. simply unsubstantiaed fears) or do you have reasons (evidence or at least suspicious behaviors) to believe she <B>is</B> having an affair? <P>I think most of us here had our betraying spouses lie about the existence of the affair at first, usually until confronted with hard, undeniable evidence (letters, emails, receipts, etc.) And many of us suspected something but didn't come up with evidence right away.<P>So which is it for you?
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The only way I know of to combat cumpulsive thinking is the 12 steps.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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To 2sad4words--At first I thought I had very good evidence but now I think they were unsubstantiated fears stemming from the past. If you read my posting How to Believe After Lies in the Past, it will give you the info. Understand that I had only a couple of questionable cell phone calls and only one suspicious day, but had receive messages from him plenty of other times that my W wanted me to call her.
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LHC,<P>There are meds for controlling anxiety, which is what you are calling "your compulsive thinking". Talk to your doctor about it, he will know if you really need meds or some program to help.<P>Be cool.
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Xanax is one med that controls anxiety/compulsive thinking. Talk to your dr, also have you considered a counselor, talking about your fears with someone else may help.<BR>Good Luck<BR>Cat
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To All,<BR>Thanks for your help and support. What are the 12 steps? Xanex may be a good answer.<BR>Yes, am currently seeing a counselor but does not seem to be helping. She talks to me, my wife has been wonderful talking with me, and several close friends all have tried to ease my pain and shut down my fears. All say their opinion is she is innocent, but her past lies wont let me believe her this time. It seems hopeless. LHC
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I read your profile, go to the dr and try it. I had mine prescribed by our family dr, and unlike anti-depressants it takes affect right away. I am not sure of the long term effects but it does help.<P>Please talk to your dr, before you push your wife away, esp if the counselor is not helping and your wife is trying to help.<P>Have you considered Obsessive Compulsive Disorder? Talk to your dr, think of what you have to lose and gain if meds can help.
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here are two sites I found by searching OCD, maybe they can help you get some information, LOL, not that I am saying you are OCD, but your obsessive thinking may be caused by this..... just a thought<BR> <A HREF="http://www.ocdonline.com" TARGET=_blank>www.ocdonline.com</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.fairlite.com" TARGET=_blank>www.fairlite.com</A> <P>Cat
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LHC,<P>They 12 steps are the basis for every addiction related recovery program...Compulsive thinking is directly linked to addiction...If you do a search engine under 12 12 steps of AA or NA, you will find the steps...They sre a blueprint for better living...<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>
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