She hasn't been to my house for years! Here she is, driving in the driveway. <P>Pray for me, that I don't kill her or something worse!<P>Keo

praying as i type!

Prayers to you Keo!!!<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

Keo,<P>Prayers and (((((BIG HUGS)))))<P>Mitzi

Finish kicking her @ss and tell us what happened. <P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Praying, Honey....hold on!!!<P>Lori

Thanks for the prayers. I guess this fits in with my earlier post about why we pray. <P>She was soooo nice. Her child is selling some stuff for her school class project. She wanted me to buy some things to help them. <P>You would have been proud of me in the beginning. I stayed calm and talked nice. She was cheerful and started talking about church activities and how they missed me so much and wanted me back. It almost felt like the old days when she was my best friend. <P>Then she made a comment about where my H is and how she doesn’t know how she can manage without him here to help her for the next three weeks. <P>I told her that I think it would be better if we don’t discuss my H.<P>She continued to talk about where he was and how long he would be gone and that she needs to call him ..... <P>I told her it’s time for her to leave. <P>She ask me how much of her stuff I want to buy.<P>I told her I would not buy from her, and told her again to leave.<P>She said she’ll will call my H because he’s a sweetheart and will help them sell all the stuff. [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/mad.gif[/img]<P>I yelled at her to get out of my house and don’t come back.<P>She started walking to her car and yelling back at me that she can’t understand why he don’t divorce me and end all his problems [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/shocked.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/mad.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/shocked.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/mad.gif[/img]<P>(censored paragraph)<P>By this time she was in her car and had it started, but was still yelling out her window at me about how she was going to tell him how horrible I treated her. That he would make me apologize to her. She was so sure that he would stand up for her and turn against me.<P>(censored paragraph) <P>I guess I’m still kind of in shock. Does the tendency to shoot people run in families? Some of you might remember one of my early posts about how 3 people in my family have shot OP. I didn’t think about it at all. I just did it like it was natural thing to do. I can't think straight now, I’ll think about it later.<P><p>[This message has been edited by Keosha (edited February 26, 2000).]

Keosha,<BR>Get the gun unloaded and out of the closet. Be prepared for her to file charges with the police. You need to have the gun so it is totally unaccessable to you! No I'm not a gun freak Obviously this woman pushes your buttons and you cannot control yourself around her. You need to tell your h exactly what happened when he comes home. Don't let her be the one to tell h. Try to remain calm. This is going to be very difficult! I will pray for you and your h's response.<P>I'm sure that the ow has a clear picture that she is not welcome in your home however

Keosha,<P>Just to add to the previous post. You need to call your local county bar association and get a referral to a good criminal defense attorney. Speak to an attorney as soon as possible, make arrangements for someone to keep your children, and prepare to spend the night in jail. When the police arrive, give them the shotgun, but do not say anything else to them, except that you want to speak to an attorney. You probably are going to be facing at least a charge for aggravated assault and possibly attempted murder. I understand that you were upset, but this is the best advice I can give you right now.

Derby, <P>Thank you for worrying about me. I guess I haven't explained very good. OW will not call police. That thought never crossed my mind. There is no danger of police involvement. You'd have to live here to understand.<P>I should have called H immediately. I have been trying to call since I read your post and the line is busy (wonder who he's talking to?) I'm sure she has made me look the ogre by now. I'm expecting to hear from him as soon as the line is free.<P>This might be the wake up call he's been needing. How will he continue to claim there is no problem when it has come to this?<P> <BR>Keo<P>This roller coaster ride is for the birds! I get dizzy to easy.<p>[This message has been edited by Keosha (edited February 22, 2000).]

Keo, ARE YOU OUT OF YOU MIND? I don't care what area of the country you live in, they take a real dim view of shooting at people. You have damaged her vehicle and have caused her to be put in apprehension of a battery. If anything happens to her you could be blamed, what if she was so frightened and upset she drove recklessly and hurt someone else? Could you live with that? You H can use this against you if you ever split with him. He can say you are a danger to your kids... Get a lawyer, and give that weopen to the police...

Where in the world do you live that you can shoot at someone and they don't call the police. Maybe I could move there, there are several OW I would love to take shots at!

Keosha,<BR>Now I can live out my fantasy thru you!!! <P>I'm so sorry she didn't just take a hint and leave. She should have stopped talking about your H the first time you asked. But some people like to cause trouble. And judging by the comments she made about your H, she came to your home to cause trouble. <P>Get the gun unloaded and put it somewhere that you won't be tempted to use it again. (Did you ask her if she felt lucky??) Sorry just some humor to try and help you get thru this.<P>But don't be surprised if she does file some charges. <P>Take care,<BR>Mitzi

Ummm, I was kidding about the kicking her @ss comment, though it sounds like you did. Wow. Praying that all of this works out for you. <P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Keo, keo, keo,<P>I am absolutley amazed...<P>I applaud you in one way, you did what we would all love to do, HOWEVER...<P>get rid of that gun right now....<P>Whether or not she calls the police, your h could be the most dangerous person to you right now - in the courts.<BR>If he EVER told a lawyer what you did, can you imagine the field day they would have with that...<P>Think of you and your children/child (?)<P>I understand the feelings you must have had when she was there, I was so mad reading what she had the nerve to say, I wanted to slap her myself, however, SHOOTING AT HER !!!!<P>I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU DID THAT!!!!!!<P>I'm not sitting here in judgement of you, if anyone understands, it's us, but I am shaking my head, and I have to admit, smiling, giggling, chuckling. I just can't believe it. But you know it's the wrong thing to do, don't you ?<BR>I have the image in my mind of you doing that, and I can't help but laugh. You must have seemed like a madwoman !!! If I did that here, I would be in jail so fast - well, I don't know how fast, but our police cars are SOOOO fast !!!! LOL<P>Have you calmed down.? I hope so.<P>Telll your H the truth, and how it was, but be prepared for him to side with her. Sickening.<P>I'm still amazed. I still can't believe you did that.<P>I think you need a very very very big Joey hug right now, and it is coming your way<P>Jo<P>

I'm sorry everyone. I should not have posted what happened. <P>Yes, there are places in the states where you can shoot and not have any charges filed and no police involved. A lot more places than you can imagine. It's not good, but it is true. I've lived in many of those places and I wish I wouldn't have. It's very sad that it happens. I'm very thankful that none of the shot hit her. I have talked with someone who knows.<P>Part of me is so sad and sorry that it happened. Another part of me is cheering that it happened. What does that say about my morals? <P>My biggest worry is what H will do. I have worked so hard to save my marriage and the last weeks have been so much improved, and now I do something so stupid. <P>Why couldn't I control my temper for just one more minute and she would have been gone?<P>bonnet thank you for thinking of my children. They are all grown and have children of their own (except one has no children). There is no danger of me loosing them. My daughter would probably throw a celebration party. <P>I guess the deed is done so now I can only try to make the best of it. I hope someday I can look back and laugh about this, but right now it hurts.<P>Sparky - don't beat yourself up over the comment. I didn't read it before this happened. If I would have read it I might have just slapped her so maybe it would have been better if I had time to read your post before I talked to her.<P>I'm not going to beat myself up anymore either. I've been so worried for so long that I just snapped. I think I released a lot of pressure today. <P>This should be a deciding factor, one way or the other.<P>WOW... I can't believe I did it either... it knocked me on my behind every time I pulled the trigger! I really must have looked crazy. <P><P>------------------<BR>Keo<P>This roller coaster ride is for the birds! :eek: I get dizzy to easy.

I was just wonder what size of shell you use to go OP hunting in your neck of the woods. And just what is the daily limit? Sorry just the redneck in me. <P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Keosha,<P>"I was so mad and out of control by this time<BR>that I didn’t care if she lived or died." <P>That may be......but to be the one to make the decision is.........scary. Please think about your actions/reactions to your anger and learn from them - if not for yourself, then for all those who would be affected by your actions (including the family of the OW.....and your family). The fact that 3 other members of your family have had shots at affair partners doesn't make it right or mean that you need to follow suit. <P>Lisa<BR>

And I thought my temper was bad.......DAMN!<P>Keosha, <P>There's no need for me to emphasize anything. The others have said it all. I believe that you already know what you need to do. You are in my prayers!! <P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

Keosha,<P>Between you and Roll Me Away, I'm now afraid to p*&s off any other women!!<P>I think this may qualify as a LB.<P>Take care and get rid of the gun!!<P>Bob