this message has been edited by claudia103<p>[This message has been edited by Claudia103 (edited March 12, 2000).]

Hi Claudia.<BR>It seems quite commom for the spouse to suddenly feel that the marriage was not good - when the affair is on) and that there is nothing that can be done ( my H felt the same ). In his profession, where working in very stressfull situations, it seems to be quite commom to form a bond with a person they work close by. ALthough if I think about it, my H's jobb is not that stressfull and the ow was also a coworker.<BR>I would plan A if I could. A sound plan A, where you would try to minimize Lbusting, create a relaxed and comfortable environment for when he was there, nothing is lost yet, my H told me there was no way we could work things out. Nevertheless, about 2 years after we're still together and enjoying our marriage more than ever.<BR>Take care<BR>Kat<BR><P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.

Yes, sex in Plan A is great, if yu are comfortable doing it. Esp. if you believe it is an EA only (as is my H), I'd be sure to meet that need enthusiastically. I think it helps strengthen the bond with your H and counteract some of the affection flowing the other way...<BR>KAthi