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H still wants to be friends with other woman!!
#849593 02/24/00 08:56 AM
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<BR>Hello again.<BR>I posted on here yesterday that my husband left the OW and wants to try again for our family. Well, yesterday he tells me before we move on, he needs to fall out of love with OW...Then says that he would still like to be here friend???...I can't believe after everything this so called "person" did to him, he could tell me that..Then, I found out that he was talking to her up at the school yesterday when he went to get our son. So, I asked him if he saw her and he said NO..I told him he was lying that I know he was. Boy, did he get upset that he got busted lying...What can I do?? He tells me he wants to take things slow between us and try to make it work again but, yet, he still wants to have her as a friend??..I am so confused...Please if anyone can help me, I would really appreciate it..
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#849594 02/24/00 09:16 AM
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Dear Tucci,<P>Get the book Surviving an Affair. Click here to go to find it in the bookstore: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html</A> <P>I think the advice you will get from the book is: <BR>1) your husband must stop all contact with OW<BR>2) your husband cannot be "just friends" with OW<BR>3) you must stop Love Busting, and that means making angry accusations, (even when he is lying)<P>Good luck.
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#849595 02/24/00 03:35 PM
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<BR>Tucci,<P>Your husband cannot be "just friends" with an OW. Reality doesn't work that way. He's still in love with her (I know it hurts to read that - I'm sorry), and doesn't want to give that up. But you can't repair a marriage while there is an affair in progress. Short answer: Stick to your guns.<P>Bystander
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#849596 02/24/00 03:47 PM
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I agree. Withdrawal and/or the affair will never end until contact stops. This is such a hard time and I'm sorry you are having to deal with it.<P>It seems that a person involved in an affair just loses all reational thought. Try to understand (I know, I know). Try to look at it from the viewpoint of it happening to your best friend and not you H. Try to separate it emotionally if you can. That helped me
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#849597 02/24/00 03:56 PM
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Besides the obvious reasons stated in the SAA book.<P>I think that it shows disrespect to you when your partner wants to keep them around. They ripped your life open with the OP and they want the reminder around? Forget it, it's a condition of mine if my wife wants to make it work.<P>I have some dignity and self respect left<P>J

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