Claudia, my sister died yesterday and I won't be able to respond to your questions. I am copying them here so you can get some replys...<P>lizzie\pearl<P>From Claudia103:<P>I really appreciate your 'secrets'. I am trying to figure this thing out. I clicked on midlife.com and actually sent a question.<BR>My husband is currently "addicted" to work. Also, the op is there working side-by-side. They do surgery together. She is his PA. Suddenly, after years of being unhappy doing what he was doing, it is like his and op are on some secret mission to save patients. <BR>In fact, that was one of his complaints to me. I can't understand what it's like to lose patients and she can. <BR>I wish he could see how depressed he really is. <BR>For respect (without reading Dobson) I told him "Whatever I wasn't to you, I was never your enemy (although he made me into one)" That seemed soften him up alittle.<BR>Can you be too nice though??? He has only been out of the house for a week and I've had an open door policy (also phone calls every night, more this week because our littlest one was sick). <BR>He was here a lot this weekend. He used the exercise bike and made himself leftovers. I treated him nicely. I'm more concerned with the kids(age 10-8-5) than me. They were very attached to him. He was very involved with them (although he denies it)He is coming over tomorrow for dinner (It's my littlest ones birthday) HE wants to go out with me on thursday to discuss finances (who pays what bill. Is it ok to be affectionate. HE hugs me in front of the kids? He asked me if I wanted to see his apt. Should I????? This is so weird. HELP.<BR>