Well good news. I tracked my H's e-mail that I found last week and as it turns out he is not using it. He never picked up his Valentines day message from her. It just sat there for two weeks along with the rest of her messages.<P>When I finally told him I had found the account he offered to cancel it and invited me to come along while he did it (and he did). He said he did not remember setting it up but that clearly he must have and that he did not use it to communicate with her. He also said that he did not remember giving her the addrress but also admitted that clearly he must have since he had e-mails from her.<P>He aslo made the point that at the time the account was set up he would have no reason to secretly communicate with her. My level of suspicioun was fairly low at that time and I was not yet objecting to his relationship with her.<P>He claims the only e-mails he got from her were the ones sent to our joint account and they were all "stupid chain mail things". These were the same things that she had e-mailed to his other account (very innocent, including the V day message). <P>I could go into more details here but the long and the short of it is that I think he is telling me the truth. <P>Maybe we can put this back togrther after all. At least I have some reason to believe that he is being faithful to me.<P>Let's hope this is as good as it seems. I think time will tell.<P>Acacia <P>

Good for you! So glad you confronted him and told him what you found. Sometimes not talking about stuff is a bigger love bust than to ask and receive the truth! Hope your having a good day! Bless you~<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!

Excellent!<P>Score one for positive conflict resolution.<P>You kept your cool. You listened. He had good answers, yet was not defensive.<P>You both get A's!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13