My husband came to pick up the kids tonight and one of the first things I noticed was that he was wearing his wedding ring! This is the same ring that he hasn't worn for almost 2 years as it had gotten too tight. I questioned him about it and he said he had been wearing it for about a week. He meant to take it off before he came over but forgot. Said he didn't want to give me the wrong idea. He asked me if I was going out on a date since I wouldn't have the kids. Of course, I told him NO. Also, that I owe him one since I had lost so much weight since he has been gone. He stayed around smiling and chit chatting about an hour.<BR> <BR>Maybe I am just crazy but why would a man put on his wedding ring for no reason? I almost had myself prepared for this divorce and now this! Is this a sign that I should really put plan A to work? Or was he just trying to twist the knife a little deeper? Help please!!!!

Tulip,<BR>Sounds like you handled that one very well! I don't know his reasoning, and neither would I dare guess but I would look at the fact that the two of you spent time chit chatting instead of arguing as a major baby step! It could mean that he wears it to fend off any other questions from people he encounters and it could mean nothing, it depends on his belief in the ring and it's symbolizism. <BR>It's good he's asking into your personal life as well, it shows he still cares in one form or another anyhow, keep up with those great baby steps and continue with plan A! God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!

Tulip,<P>Until you go to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... you've got to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> as much as you can.<P>It looks promising. <P>Thanks for the reply to my post last night...<BR>... I really appreciated it! <P>Jim

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I feel like at least I didn't LB. I was afraid that maybe I shouldn't have asked about the ring. <BR> It is so nice to have people to talk to in similar situations.

Just because you are not dating and waiting for spouse to return, doesn't mean it's any of spouse's business. The more evasive you can be, the more spouse will wonder about if you still want them and they may start having more interest in you.<P>I've learned to say, "I'm not sure that it's any of your business right now" , or, "Wouldn't you like to know!" I say all of this very gently, politely, with a pleasant look on my face, and give hime NO info.<P>I've learned this the hard way, though, after realizing that I've given him too much info, and when I give him less, he begins to be interested in me. I think his jealous side still wants me. <P>I think that when our spouses senses that we aren't desperately waiting for them to come to their senses, and that we have a life capable of functioning without them, then they start to want us back. <P>Best wishes. God bless and much patience.<P>Kalise

Kalise,<P>I try not to offer any information to my H. He tells me that he has been keeping tabs on me and knows I've been going out with some other guy. Of course, this is not true but sometimes I just don't say anything either way. Let him wonder for a while. I know he doesn't like having a taste of his own medicine because he has told me it makes him jealous to think I am seeing someone else. It is so strange that what is good for the gander is not good for the goose. Thanks so much for your input and I couldn't agree more.