I tried Plan B. Couldn't do it. I also can't avoid the Lovebusting anymore. I am too angry. Too much continues to happen. I don't know if I <B>can</B>feel any love for him anymore. Why do I still feel so much pain over making the decision to divorce him?<P>Why bother? I feel that I have wasted my life for the past 4 years. I didn't feel this way until today. I never thought that I would get to this point. What do you do when you feel that the love has been killed? I do feel this way right now, maybe I'll feel differently in the morning I'm not betting on it though, and I'm not even a gambler by any stretch of the imagination.<P>I've asked the question before, but maybe someone has some enlightenment for me this time: How can you possibly Plan B if the spouse won't move out? It creates too much strain on my children and myself. I don't want to have to be nasty, but I guess I will if I have to.<P><p>[This message has been edited by RCoaster (edited February 26, 2000).]

RC,<P>I'm a fine one to give advice. We all know how bad I "lost it" this week. And then the phone call on top of the fight <P>I'm not in Plan A or Plan B. I've been doing Plan K for Keo's own ideas. You can read how far that's got me <P>RC, your name says it all. Your riding the roller coaster and it's a wild ride. Hang in there and hold on. <P>Keo

Keo,<P>That's just it, I don't feel that there's anything to hold on to anymore

My husband wouldn't move out either. He wanted to save money so he could EVENTUALLY move out. Well, in his dreams. So, I did what "Surviving an Affair" recommends: I filed for separation. It may take some searching to find a lawyer who is willing to file for separation and NOT divorce, but it's worth it. We are still separated (since 9/99), he pays child support, I have FULL custody of kids, he has visitation rights. Do your best to do PLAN A as long as possible before filing for separation. Steve says do it as long as you can (set a goal that can always be changed as you get closer to it to add more time, or, if necessary, subtract some time), create in spouse the feeling that you are the BEST thing that has EVER happened to spouse, and when you feel you are going to explode with LOVEBUSTERS, file!<P>I have lots of hope. God bless and much patience.<P>Kalise<P>------------------<BR><p>[This message has been edited by kalise (edited February 28, 2000).]