I recently discovered my husband's affair and after being confronted he left not only me, but our 7 month old baby. We have been married for almost 5 years. I want to try and restore our relationship, but so far am unsuccessful. We have been seperated for a month now, although we talk some regarding the baby and bills. I just feel like time is running out to try to save my marriage although neither of us has filed for divorce yet. Any advice?

Welcome <B>karen7</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome post I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P>For some clarity... a short time ago the "main" forum was divided into 4 separate "sub" forums...<BR>Staying in the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum will give you the most responses! <P>Do begin with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... it is the best approach... making <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> work during a separation is possible... but hard... many of us are doing it including me.<P>Please read everything you can from the welcome post... and then ask questions!<P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited February 29, 2000).]

Karen,<P>I just want to echo Jim's most gracious welcome and encourage you that time is irrelevant. You are just beginning, there is lots of support here. Most importantly, the Holy Spirit will give you the comfort and daily sustaining that you need, if you let Him do that. Go to Him, He's ready to offer you hope and encouragement. Proverbs 3: 5&6<P>God bless you, He does love you.<P>------------------<BR>Fear God and you will have nothing else to fear<P>Hosea 3

Karen,<P>Wayward spouses walk and talk, but they have no brain. How anyone could leave a 7 month old baby is beyond me. You are hurting I am sure. Hang in there. Someday your h will look back and think "WHAT was I thinking?" the problem is he is NOT thinking right now. You must remeber this when you talk to him. Just keep this in the back of your mind when you do talk to him. You can't tell him this, of course, because he is not thinking. He does not see it yet. But to keep your sanity you have to remind yourself of this, or you will become very confused. Boy, oh Boy. a 7 month old baby! What a joy to have, and he is missing this most precious time. How deeply he will regret it. Keep yourself together the best you can. Call the Harley's telephone counseling. They can help. It is worth it.<P>What a joy you have in your baby! Congradulations. I will pray for you and your family. Can you stay with any supportive family right now?<BR>Victoria