I posted last week about my 16 yo D and my concern over a 26 yo sailor showing what I think is inappropriate attention to her-they met over the Internet. I asked for advice onhow to handle it and whether to notify my ex. Well, she received a hugh bouquet of flowers that were obviously very expensive, and also over the weekend he called again and they were on the phone for quite a while. To make a long story short, I did Email my ex, explaining my concern and I said she got a hugh bouquet of flowers, bigger than I had ever gotten and covered half of her dresser. I asked for his input on how we should handle this and we needed to be united in our approach. I thought I chose my words very carefully, because I'm trying to maintain a Plan A approach. Today I receive a nasy gram Email stating he is tired of my ex-bashing and did not appreciate my comment about the size of the flowers and that I had never gotten any that big. It was also up to me to control her access to the computer ,not his and that he could only talk with her and advise her. I do know it is up to me, and my daughter and I have had a long talk. The tone was very angry and I don't know where the anger was coming from,because I certainly was not trying to "ex-bash". I was trying to include him in the situation and get his input only. What do I do now? His response totally surprized me. Sorry, about the length ,I didn't know how to brief it down, so you all would see the whole picture.

Is this man in the Marine Corps or the Navy? If he is either, it is totally inappropriate for him to be involved with a minor and he could be thrown out of his branch of service if the involvement were to become known to his superiors. Find out exactly what he is doing with your daughter and call his commanding officer if you need to. <P>PS If he is in one of the armed forces please don't let this jerk taint your views of most of the men in the service. Most of them are really good guys, unfortunately the few that make idiots of themselves are the ones that get the most attention. <P>Oops, also, make sure this guy knows your daughter is only 16 before you turn him in. <p>[This message has been edited by KBear (edited March 01, 2000).]