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First , Thank you for all yout kind words toward me and my family. After 5 weeks I am somewhat better, but never the less my husband has move out and I am in "waiting Mode". And that makes me mad. I dont know how I should act on the phone w/ my husband or if I see him briefly. I told him that for now he is not welcome in our house and he cannot come and go as he pleases. He still seing her and I dont want any part of that . I told him that when our son is with him "no girl Around " and he said for sure that was ok. But my question is should I play indepandent or cold or myself (being nice) or what. He knows what my feelings are but I feel that for my own dignity I should put up a wall. What should I do?<BR>Anne T
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Ann T,<P>Have you ever heard the saying, "The best defense is a good offense"? You should not build walls for defense. Let him see what he is giving up and what he has to look forward to if he comes back. This Plan A and you should research it. <P>By the way Plan A is often interpreted as "letting him/her run all over me". It is not that. If he is doing something you don't like you kindly and firmly inform him that you cannot accept that action. But no LB's no name calling, if you read about it it will make sense.<P>You will do more to save your marriage by being on the offense. Retreating and building walls will reaffirm why he feels he left and justify his decision.<P>God Bless,<P>JL
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