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Anyone ever made it back to total happiness before the affair?
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JC:<P>"Before" the affair... or after the affair?<P>My H and I are in recovery. It's been 5-1/2 weeks since discovery. Affair ended upon discovery and so did his drinking. He's a recovering alcoholic, and we've been in counseling since a week after discovery.<P>I can truly say (except for the triggers and some paranoia I've been through - which was proved for no reason) that it's the best relationship I've ever been in.<P>This is a unique experience, whereas since he's a recovering alcoholic, we're both finding out who he 'really' is and so it seems like a whole new relationship for both of us.<P>I can say that we are truly "winners" because of what has happened. It opened up his eyes and it reopened my heart.<P>--purplemag<BR>
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I was under the impression that we had gotten there before her most recent affair. We had gone to a marriage conference and she was showing me that she really wanted it to work. This was after 7 prior affairs.<P>I guess it was all a lie. However, I think she suffers from a psychological disorder which helps explain the irrationality in her decision making.<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net
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I have to agree with Purplemag-it is better than before. Probably because we are both very conscious of our behavior both toward each other and how it affects the other. We know what can happen and we don't want to ever get close to that point again. <P>We take NOTHING for granted,- we talk, talk, talk-in short it comes down to genuine caring for one another.
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In my case, I don't know if I could be happier like I was before the affair. When my H & I were first together, we were a very happy couple.<P>The affair has changed me and marred our marriage. I am no longer the same person. I don't know if our marriage could return to what it was like before...because before, I used to think it was perfect.
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