I will leave OW alone made not contact with her and never will. But seeing her on the roads or while working out is so hard to do. I want to say something, but I won't. It is a LB and I won't do that to myself or my H.<P>[This message has been edited by jc67501 (edited March 05, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by jc67501 (edited March 05, 2000).]

jc-<BR>Hi, my H has told me of his posts to you and I have read some of them. It seems we have more in common than just this board, unfortunate for us, huh? I guess I'm a little confused by this post, was the OW not supposed to be on that road, was it just a fluke or are you pretty sure she was there because of your H? In our case the OW did some really bizarre things after discovery and I would guess in these kinds of situations bizarre=normal. I am sorry your H is going through wd and is sad. As hard as it might seem now, if you can get through this it will be worth it. I was reading another person's post earlier and it might be encouraging to you. I'll try to look it back up and let you know which one it was.<P>I don't know that I have any great revelations to alleviate any of the stress and agony you are going through but I do want to tell you I am here, and perhaps sometime if you need a live shoulder to cry on, unlike the others here, that might be geographically possible for us.<P>I will try to set up a hotmail account (for privacy purposes) so you can email me direct for now. If you need me before that happens just post with my name or my H's in the topic section and we will see it and get back asap.<P>Just a quick funny-<BR>my first thought when I found out we were in the same town was that it was probably the same OW! But from what you've said the possiblity is extremely remote. You should be glad about that because she is a loon deluxe.<P>Anyway-chin up, I liken this stage of the process as to discovering your H has a tumor. Treatment needs to swift and severe. You've now done the surgery, we have to just wait and see if you & (H) got it all. If not it may require more pain and more surgery but if you can get it all the healing process can start. If you can figure out what caused it to begin with you can cut that out of your lifestyle. Time will help the scars to fade but they will always remain no matter how faint they might become. But this too can be a good thing.<P>Duck and Weave<BR>Lori

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Duck and Weave:<BR><B>jc-<BR>Hi, my H has told me of his posts to you and I have read some of them. It seems we have more in common than just this board, unfortunate for us, huh? I guess I'm a little confused by this post, was the OW not supposed to be on that road, was it just a fluke or are you pretty sure she was there because of your H? In our case the OW did some really bizarre things after discovery and I would guess in these kinds of situations bizarre=normal. I am sorry your H is going through wd and is sad. As hard as it might seem now, if you can get through this it will be worth it. I was reading another person's post earlier and it might be encouraging to you. I'll try to look it back up and let you know which one it was.<P>I don't know that I have any great revelations to alleviate any of the stress and agony you are going through but I do want to tell you I am here, and perhaps sometime if you need a live shoulder to cry on, unlike the others here, that might be geographically possible for us.<P>I will try to set up a hotmail account (for privacy purposes) so you can email me direct for now. If you need me before that happens just post with my name or my H's in the topic section and we will see it and get back asap.<P>Just a quick funny-<BR>my first thought when I found out we were in the same town was that it was probably the same OW! But from what you've said the possiblity is extremely remote. You should be glad about that because she is a loon deluxe.<P>Anyway-chin up, I liken this stage of the process as to discovering your H has a tumor. Treatment needs to swift and severe. You've now done the surgery, we have to just wait and see if you & (H) got it all. If not it may require more pain and more surgery but if you can get it all the healing process can start. If you can figure out what caused it to begin with you can cut that out of your lifestyle. Time will help the scars to fade but they will always remain no matter how faint they might become. But this too can be a good thing.<P>Duck and Weave<BR>Lori</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>Duck & Weave:<BR>She can be on this road. I am going to post on a new thread to talk more. I would like it very much to have private email. I already have an Hotmail account. Talk to you soon, and thanks for writing back.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by jc67501 (edited March 05, 2000).]