Thanks for your reply to my post! I really appreciate it! It is nice to hear from somebody that knows what I am going through. <P>I can't believe he had you thrown in jail!!!!! I guess I need to count my blessings again!<P>Are you doing the Divorce Busting Last Resort Technique? If so, how long have you been doing it?<P>My H acts like he isn't doing this to be mean, only because I called him 10 days ago and told him that since he cancelled our apt. with our pastor, I can no longer work on the marriage. It wasn't helping anyway, only pushing him away. I didn't say it negatively, only because I loved him and I thought that was what he wanted.<P>Anyway, day 10 and no contact except a short e-mail from him a week ago.<P> <P>I think the only difference in our situation is the OW. Supposedly she has been out of the picture since September and she has another boyfriend. He isn't supposedly seeing anybody, but he is also a compulsive liar!<P>Thanks for your support! I look forward to hearing from you and to see how your situation is doing.<P> <P>TB

Teddybear,<P>I am not familiar with the Divorce Busting Last Resort Technique. I would love to hear about it as I am always looking for ways to deal with this crappy situation.<P>Hmm...It sounds like our H's might be related My H is also a compulsive liar! I put my divorce on hold last October because he told me he wanted to reconcile. Well, come to find out he was still living with the OW. Although I think their relationship is really on the rocks at this point, I am still unsure if the relationship is over. Actually, he still denies that there ever was an affair. Yeah, right! <P>For some strange reason I still want to make my marriage work. He is a fairly good liar and I guess that is why I am trying to be cautious before jumping head first into it again.<P>I truly hope that you H is honest about the OW. It hurts so much to find out you have been deceived again. It is very possible that he is being honest because these affairs just don't have anything to base a relationship on. I would continue to give him the benefit of the doubt that the affair is over, but keep your eyes open just in case. <P>Take care and keep me posted on how it is going. I will keep you in my prayers, and always remember one way or another we will emerge better people! <P>Tulip

Tulip,<P>go to <A HREF="http://www.weiner-davis.com" TARGET=_blank>http://www.weiner-davis.com</A> <P>The book Divorce Busting is AWESOME!!!<P>Thanks for replying! It is nice to correspond with people in the same situation. <P>The evil twins will have to come to their senses sometime don't you think? haha LOL

Teddybear,<P>I haven't been around my computer to post much the last couple of days. My H and I have spent a lot of time talking about how we can make this marrige thing work Looking back, it is so amazing we are even speaking to one another much less talking about getting back together!<P>Thanks for the info. I will definitly check out the divorce busting book.<P>I'm crossing my fingers that this "evil-twin" has finally come around. I hope yours does too. Keep me posted!