Just wondering if any of you believe it is okay to ask my spouse to be tested for STDs. I have no reason to think he has caught something except the type of woman he has been with. She apparently sleeps with anything that moves. I find this to be quite scary. <P>I would be more than willing to get tested too. I have not done anything but we have lived apart for 7 months. I think he knows I have been faithful but I feel he may request I do the same. Any thoughts would be helpful. Thanks.

it is more than ok...it is imperative, necessary, and MUST be done....<P>I cannot stress the importance of this enough...if it will help for both of you to do this together, by all means....<P>but do it.....he must.....read the affair and STD thread by Judee4u.....<P><BR>Dylan

I agree with Soulloss, that was one of the first things I did after discovering bozo's last affair.<P>There are too many uncureable Std's and and Aids is deadly. <P>Don't take chances with your health, or your spouses.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Tulip,<P>By all means , do ask your husband to get checked for std's. In fact, I made it a condition for mine to stay. There are some that can give no symptoms and still be present. Mine gave me one that, thankfully, could be cured, but he had no symptoms, but I did. It was the most humiliating experience of my life (going for tests) next to what he had already put me through, but necessary. It was very humiliating for him too, especially when the doctor gave him a "lecture" about how unfair it was to expose me to the possibility of aids. Good luck.<p>[This message has been edited by Apprehensive (edited March 04, 2000).]

You must insist he gets tested and you must be checked out, too. I got Cervical cancer from my husband's affair. I think I beat it after two yrs., but because of my GYN's failure to diagnose it almost killed me. The cancer is what tipped me off to his affair. The cancer is at least 95% caused by the Human papilloma virus-sexually transmitted. I went immediately and had an HIV test that was negative. I should have gone back for the 6 month test to be certain, but didn't. By now I would have seen signs of HIV.<BR>Protect yourself and demand a condom at least if you plan on being intimate. It may save your life. Peace lover

I agree. You need to ask your H about this. I had mine get an HIV test. He was not offended. He understood. Please ask him and be safe.<P>Acacai

Thanks so much for all of your responses. I asked my H this weekend if he would get tested. He said he would. I feel so much better with that off my chest. We are talking about him moving back in very soon, so I want to get the test done as soon as possible. That will be one less BIG worry off my mind.<P>Apprehensive,<P>Thanks so much for your very honest response. I know that must have been an awful situation. It sounds like the doc's lecture really opened your H's eyes. I'm so glad that is was curable as is so unfair to expose a spouse to that. Sometimes I really think men have that "invincible" feeling teenagers have. <P>Peace lover,<P>I feel so bad for your situation, but thankfully you were able to beat the cancer. I hope that you have no further medical problems due to that. <BR>I have a friend that also contracted HPV, and she was told by her GYN that it is one of the most common STDs around. Many times people don't even know they have it. <BR>Take care.<BR>

Absolutely insist on this for H. It was the only thing I asked him to do after discovery....and he refused until my 16 year old son insisted on it. I never got the results!