Well the girls father finally called. After a few days absence. He was nice to them....which really through me for a loop. But I caught on real fast. He wanted to talk to me. When I got on the phone...he asked about W-2's and the taxes. I told him that he can discuss it with his attorney and they will figure it out. Told him to let the attorneys handle it. He continued how if we file together it would save "us" alot of money. He must really think I am stupid. It will save "him" alot of money. I will do what my attorney feels is best. Besides....it was so hard...but I bit my tongue. Last year he came back...after being gone for 2 1/2 weeks and expressed his undying love for me. Then 1 week later I was signing a tax return for iver 3,000.00. Then when the check was put into the savings account...he withdrew all the money and booked out of our lives. Like I trust him again. I know that I will get half because there are attorneys and a divorce involved....but maybe not. He seemed to be able to rook my out of so much money and assets as of right now....that I am not so sure he still couldn't. Also I know that he has rec'd umteen bonus checks and I'll bet that he will get next to nothing or owe unless we file jointly.<P>Sorry.....just venting....I guess I must still have feelings for him because I felt bad after saying that. It is just that when he left months ago I would try and talk to him about everything and his comment to me would be "if it isn't about the girls or the divorce I don't want to talk to you". So when I say.....Do you want to talk about the girls and he says no or just talks right over me I get kind of mad. I don't want to talk about the taxes. It is always about money...money....money.<P>But anyway....I knew there had to be a reason he was so nice to the girls....because if he gets them upset I will NOT talk to him, and he knows that.<P>Yuk!<BR>He makes my stomach get in knots<BR>Nancy

Nancy,<P>Do whatever your lawyer thinks best. Right now you have to protect yourself and your children.<P>If you work and support your children why should he now get to claim you and them ?<BR>Did he share those bonus checks you mentioned with you ? Did you and the children benifit from them ?<P>This may be a LB to him, but since he has "done" you before over money, I see no reason to believe he won't "do" you again.<P>Which will be a major LB to you. <P>Sorry if I sound snippy about this, I'm PMSing .<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Deb,<BR>PMSing or not...you don't sound snippy. You are cautious...so am I. I don't trust him. i have been thinking about it all day. The key word he said was "save" us money. I think he already did his taxes as filing single and realized with all that he made and bonus checks he will owe. With the children and I being claimed...he won't either owe as much or will get some back. <P>To answer your question....no....the girls nor I saw any of the bonus money. In fact he is paying about 150.00 to 200.00 less a week in child support than he should...not including bonus money. Now all of a sudden him and I are "us". YUK