Is it true? Is it normal for a withdrawing spouse to speak of divorce and/or separation? Did that happen to any of you during withdrawals? <BR>Here's the deal with me. I know for certain that my wife loves me dearly. No one could love as deeply as she has with me and have it all go away. When she started her new job after one of my businessess failed, she realized that she was 32, beautiful, and that other men were attracted to her. One got to her emotionally. That, combined with her being surrounded by women at work whose husbands make 1/2 million dollar salaries, caused her to turn on me in the worst way.<P>We have four kids, I've been successfully Plan A'ng, and she's been in withdrawals since 2/4. Problem is that Om must call her occassionally at work to sell products, and only she can take the orders. She wanted more financial security, so I'm getting an offer for a new job paying nearly $300,000 annually. Now she wants me out again, says she's leaving no matter what. But then has sex that night and in the morning says she's confused and will think about giving our new life a chance even though she doesn't love me. She did talk about seeing a lawyer last night.<P>My mom and many others say even this low level will pass. That I should just take the new job and she will relish in the new lifestyle which is what she and I have always wanted. I simply didn't want to achieve it this way, but I can and will be happy as long as I'm with her.<P>By the way, my wife has told me as recently as last weekend that she loves me and doesn't want to be apart. This Fri. and Sat. she forgot all that - funny how that happens. But Sat. night and all day/night Sun. she's a sweetheart talking about our future. <P>How do I read this? Should I talk to lawyers now?<P>SamH<P>
