is a song George Strait sings...<P>1st verse is dad taking the little boy camping<P>2nd verse is dad brings 15 year old son old vet they rebuild together<P>3rd verse is boy gets married<P>chorus is "this could be the best day of my life..."<P>I'm setting here bawling my eyes out with memories of how my son begged his dad to take him fishing and do so many things and H was always too busy to do ANYTHING with son! <P>the creep had time to do tons of things with OW son!<P>the creep had time to do tons of things with OW!<P>the creep has time to do tons of "church work"<P>it's only me and son that he don't have time for?<P>I shot at the wrong person.... <P>Keo<p>[This message has been edited by Keosha (edited March 10, 2000).]

Hi Keosha,<P>I am so sorry! I know what you mean! I would beg my husband not to work so much. He used to hate his job. Then all of a sudden he didn't mind going so bad. That was because he was working with the other woman. <P>He is only 32 and she is 41. She has a 16 year old daughter and a 21 year old son. So, now my h has a new family. The first time he came over after having moved in with her he talked to me about doing stuff with her family! I wanted to kick his a$$! It made me mad as hell that he could talk about her family as if they were his own when his own family who really isn't that bad is dying because he is gone. OHHHH, I feel for you so much!<P>By the way, who did you shoot at??? <P>~Woozy

oh Woozy, you missed that? <P>OW came to my house and one thing led to another, when all was said and done she had a lot of buckshot in her car... <P>At the time I was really upset over it. Now I set around with my friends and laugh about it. She hasn't been back! <P>Keo

Keo,<P>My H was/is the same way. Too much time for everyone but his sons! Sometimes I feel like I hate him!!<P>It just plain sucks!!!! I want a time machine or a magic wand!<P>Prayers,<BR>Mitzi

Keo,<P>I laugh along with you about it!! I wish I had the guts to do that sometimes!! just go off on a shooting rampage!!<P>Mitzi

Wow Keo, that took guts! I am impressed! Can I hire you to come shoot up her trailer? Just an absolute joke! I don't even have a gun anymore. My brother-in-law made me get it out of the house when my h went bonkers. That was the first thing my brother-in-law did when he found out my h left. He called me up and asked me where the gun was. He told me to find it and get it out of our home and out of my h's hands. My h has had three family members commit suicide. So, the gun is safely tucked away at my parents home which is three hours away! I have never shot a gun before anyway. Anyway, that is pretty wild! COOL!<P>Woozy

Hi Keo,<P>you poor poor thing. It hurts so much that they can do this, when they have their own family right there. I will never understand this, as long as I live.<P>My H was the same. Always had time for a boys night out, admittedly not very often, but still did it.<BR>Always had time for the fishing trips with his dad/uncle/brother etc. Admittedly not very often, but still did it.<BR>Always had time for extra hours at work, even before OW, all the time, and still did it.<BR>Is there a pattern here. I'm sorry if I sound so bitter, but if they only realised that if they spent just half a day on the weekends with us, things would have been so much better. He was always tired.<BR>All the other things he did, ie, boys nights out, fishing, etc were not very often. But when you add them up over the whole year, he did a lot more with everyone else, that what he ever did with us.<BR>I hope they all wake up, and see the light. They are missing so much joy, and enjoyment. Don't they realise what 'family' means. It's not everyone else's family, it's theirs...<P>Sorry, I get so mad at my H when I think about this particular subject.<P>Where's your gun Keo?? That story still makes me laugh, you incredible woman...<P>I can still see the picture I created in my own mind, what a hoot.<BR>take care of you, are you going to Woozy's party.? I just asked if I could join!!!<P>Jo

I wouldn't recommend it for anyone else... it didn't take guts, I was so mad I lost control of my thinking. I guess I'm lucky I didn't do anything worse. I could be spending the rest of my life behind bars! She ain't worth it!!!!<P>H has locked up all the guns (I have several) Its kind of hard to live out here without one. Lots of mean animals that make it dangerous to go out at night. I carried a gun just to walk out and get in my car after dark. never know when something will be to close for comfort...<P>I have to admit, I've become the most popular woman in the neighborhood. LOL You wouldn't believe some of the conversations we've had around the fire... LOL <BR> <P><BR>

Hey! The OW here lives in a trailer and a guy shot it full of holes last year! She was dating 2 men at one time and 1 guy shot the other! The guy that got shot is ok and the shooter is in prison. <BR>Wonderful place for my hubby to be, huh? And some people wonder why my kids are not allowed there!

Mitzi, <P>I can sure understand you keeping your kids away. She sounds like a dangerous woman to be around. (look whos talking )<P>Emotions can make a person do things they would not normally do. <P>I really don't hate OW. H is the one keeping EA going. I think she even LB's at him alot. hurray for that!<P>She is a well respected woman in town. (well, at least she used to be) her habit of EA's with men is her only flaw. her H has been in withdrawl for years. I feel sorry for him.<P>I don't want to offend any of the OP on this board. I don't mean to put them down. I know that some of them have been victims the same as we are. I value the OP opinions here on the board. <P>My OW was having a bad day and so was I. When we got together that day we both lost our tempers and the sparks started flying! <P>I really hope it never happens again.<P>But it sure is funny NOW... <P>Keo

That is wild! I wish I could keep my kids away from the ow! So far so good but I keep wondering how long that can last! I can't believe you h is staying with her. I can't believe my h is staying with his ow. I am obviously the better woman. I think he doesn't thing he deserves me! That is my ego talking! I am trying to give it a boost!! LOL!!!<P>Woozy

My lawyer is asking for restricted visitations in the divorce so that the kids can't be around her. Right now, the decision is completely mine. I told him that he is not to take the kids around her, and if he does he'll have to be supervised by either me or his mother. So far, he is listening. He's never even mentioned her to the boys! They know about her but he won't talk about her. <P>Keo, I know what you mean. I respect the OP here because they are honestly trying to make amends. My OW has a habit of breaking up marriages and not feeling bad about it. She is even seeing someone while my H is out of town working during the week. Of course, no one else will tell him and I'm a liar. <P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><B>no one else will tell him and I'm a liar.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>a little detective work on your part might be in order.<P>It could be fun and theraputic... LOL<P>P.S. H is not living w/ OW. She lives with her H. my H sneaks around to see her behind my back. H is still in denial.<P>

Keo,<P>I'm getting film for my camera this weekend and my mom's video camera is charged and ready to go!!!<BR>

You go girl!!! Woo hooo! Nail that nasty... well I want to say it but I won't!<P>Woozy

BTW, Keo<P>I love that song. I just hope Cat and I are the example to our son Ryan when he gets married. <P><P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Sparky<P>It's been one of my favorite songs. It's never bothered me before. Yesterday I was driving along and it came on the radio. I don't know why it hit me so hard, but it did. I started crying so hard I had to pull over on the side of the road. <P>When I heard it again tonight the water works started again. <P>It makes me so mad to react like that. It's a beautiful song and I really love it. I don't know if I'll ever be able to enjoy it like I used to.<P>Just another one of those crazy reactions that drive me up the wall <P>Keo<P>does this happen to others? am I the only one having these crazy reactions to normal things?

Nope I'm having them too.<P>Try "Smile" by Lonestar. That one kills me for some reason. LOL<P>the "you can't help how you don't feel" line. Ugh. Oh well, I still love country music. LOL <P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

That song makes me cry everytime I hear it.<BR>esp the last verse.<P><P>------------------<BR>Cat<P>catfrommb@yahoo.com