Great news!!!!<P>My wife said most all those evil things things, and has tried to throw me out three times during withdawals - even threatening lawyers and kid snatching.<P>But this morning she was true to the theme of my "hurtful sayings" thread. She said that she's sorry for all the evil things she's said and done, that we are moving forward as a couple and team, that we'll go back to counseling not to decide to stay together (decision made), but to learn to meet each others needs and get to the root of her desires. <P>This recovery stuff is really hard. But, if WE can hold ourselves together as Harley suggests, then there is lots of hope. You see, they really don't mean that stuff they say. We just have to get them to the other side before they or we do something stupid that ruins the marriage. I'm really glad I didn't love bust and stuck to Plan A. That's what she says has made the difference, that she couldn't make me mad enough to leave - and she said and did some pretty evil stuff.<P>SamH

So happy to hear your good news and keep up the good work!

SamH,<P>that is so wonderful. Well done. You must feel great about you, and how you handled all this. Don't get me wrong, I know we've all made mistakes, and done things that in the light of day we wish we hadn't, however, your W has just confirmed what we all hope. <BR>That our spouses don't really mean all they say.<P>I love early mornings with great news. And feelings of positiveness (sp.?) and hope.<P>You, my friend, have given me that this morning. Thank you. It;s 7.30 Sun morning here, and I've started the day with a positive outlook, thanks to you. It will stay with me all day.<P>I hope things continue to go your way, and withdrawal/recovery is not too bad for you both. I will follow your story.<P>best of luck, and a big hug for good measure<P>Jo

{{{{SAM}}}}}<BR> <BR>Yeah! Congratulations! Keep it up...<BR>Kathi

SamH--<P>Good news. And what we are all hoping for. <P>For many of us, it is not going to happen (apparently anyway). I will be divorced soon and am feeling increasingly ready to move on to a life without my W. My fear is I will move on - really move on - and then she will wake up to what harm has done. At that point, one or both of us could be remarried, no love left etc. <P>I really feel the bind of that. Anyone else?