You called me this afternoon at work upset and angry about my last posting to this forum. You have been reading them and copying them for your own file. I hope you understand that I am just trying to find help and insight to the problems. Why you ask??<P>Because I LOVE YOU!! I have loved you since the day I met you October 21, 1979. I came here for honest advice because I did not know how to handle this situation.<P>I have forgiven the past, forgetting has been harder but it is the present that has me so worried, scared and stumbling. It takes both of us to negotiate, both making suggestions, I wanted and needed your suggestions too! When divorce is mentioned everytime a hard spot has comes up, then that is not negotiating, that is trying to unfairly control. And neither of us would ever be happy if we continued in that situation either.<P>I want a "whole" husband, passionate, loving, caring, compassionate, understanding and patient. AND I want and need to be able to return the same. Both of us did this before even through bad times in our marriage.<P>I know I have made mistakes, you have made mistakes, we have made mistakes, like children it did not come with a handbook and we learn from our errors.<P>God Bless you, stay safe, and<BR>I love you still, even when it means letting you go <P>Lila <P>