Well I talked with Steve Harley yesterday. Seems I have to drive across the country & knock on wankboys parents house door to see my Wife. (This is something I believe has been shown to me from God in a few different ways).<P>Okay, I’m scared to death. I really hope my Wife isn’t there. Perhaps we (me ^& the kids & his parents) will sit down & have dinner (that’d be a real hoot, eh?)<P>We are off to Orlando in 2 weeks for spring break. (Anyone live between Denver & there wanna have a drink?)<P>So I have to “stir the pot” so to speak. We are both lasting so long because of the minimal contact between us. I’ll rock their world. Kindly of course, but she probably won’t like it. Oh, well.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris,<BR>Knock away! <P>Will you head down I-25 through Santa Fe and/or Albuquerque? If so, let me know... I'll meet you for a drink! Just don't let me near the twinky (she's a bartender) LOL LOL!!<P>Thoughts & prayers,<BR>Butterfly<P>PS ~ I have a sledge hammer if you want to take it with you .<P>------------------<BR>There are deep sorrows and killing cares in life, but the encouragement and love of friends were given us to make all difficulties bearable. <BR>-- John Oliver Holmes<P>The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.<BR>-- Elie Wiesel<P><BR>

Didn't you say she is Wisconsien right now? That will be an interesting route from Colorodo to Orlando.<P>Best of luck. I agree that has got to shake things up a bit!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Chris...<P>"Whose there..."...<BR>oh... wait... my kids confused me again... LOL<P>OK... a few questions...<BR>This doesn't sound like <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>... stuff to me...<P>What exactly did Steve ask you to discuss with wankboy's parents? (or is to have W's parents give her <I>the</I> education?)<P><B>AND</B> What exactly did Steve ask you to discuss with <B>your W</B>?<P>I hope you're not out of practice in <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Busting</A>... in the presence of your W!<P>Watch out when you “stir the pot”...<BR>...you never know what's been simmer in it!<P>Keep us posted...<P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited March 16, 2000).]

Good luck on the knocking and have great fun in Disney World.<P>Sorry I live in Indiana...or I would say come on over.<P>My sister lives in Wisconsin...can she help?<P>Nancy

Hi Chris,<P> Oh my ....this will be interesting....tell us when and we will PRAY for you. I'm glad you are taking some action. Will you travel through NC at all? Will you have access to this board while travelling?(laptop?)........Take care, LU

Hey Chris,<BR> I live in central MO, not far from I-70.<P>This was my sons favorite Knock Knock joke when he was little<P>Knock knock<BR>whose there?<BR>cargo<BR>Cargo who<BR>cargo beep beep<P>It still makes me laugh!<P>Have a great trip!<P>

I live in Atlanta, very near downtown off of I-75/85. I'm a girl, and you're a married guy so maybe having a drink ain't a great idea, but my sister works in tourism industry in O-town. (aka Orlando) and can usually get some great deals on the local attractions. I see if I can get you any special deals, and we can arrange for a pickup?

Well, Chris, you can't Plan A, if you never see her or talk to her...are you sure a warning phone call isn't in order? It would be terribly anti-climatic if no one at all was home, say all gone for the weekened or something. You'd be all revved up and a maniac at Disney. . I can see you roaring your girls around "NO WE'RE GOING ON TOWER OF TERROR THEN ROCKIN' ROLLAR COASTER FIVE MORE TIMES! QUIT WHINING. WE CAN EAT ANYTIME, WE'RE AT DISNEY NOW!" (no of course you wouldn't do that...)

Have fun on your vacation. I hope contact with your wife is a positive event. If you take a detour through Minnesota, I live in Minneapolis and I have some Guinness on hand.

The way I read it, Donna likely won’t be there when Chris shows up to talk to Wankboy’s parents.<P>Chris... you taking the girls with you? Will THEY be meeting with his parents? That in itself will have a TREMENDOUS effect, as they say, “I’ve seen my mommy once in the last year because she walked out on us to go live with YOUR SON.”<P>It certainly WILL stir the pot, that’s for sure. The result may not be what you want, but at least it will accomplish <B>something,</B> right? Remember, family may not be as important to them as it is to you; Donna has shown it’s not that important to her... <P>Amazing what will bring folx out of the woodwork... Good Luck, and Be Strong. I know the latter is second nature to you. <P>OK.. duh. I re-read... guess I should refer to the post I'm replying to before hitting "submit." Kids WILL be there, and Chris HOPES Donna isn't. Got it... I'm on track now. <P>Good luck again, Chris... <P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die<p>[This message has been edited by WhoDat (edited March 16, 2000).]

Butterfly, I'm going east on I-70. I could pop down & visit a friend in Albuquerque some time. Maybe I could stop by the bar & pick up on little miss twinky? LOL<P>FHL, She was in Wisconson. So far this year she has been to Arkansas, Milwaukee, New York, Chicago and Memphis. That I know of.<P>I'm going through Arkansas. His parents (which is the only address I have for her) live only about 30 miles from my Uncle & Aunt who we go camping with in the Grand Tetons every year. Plus it is on the way to Orlando.<P>NSR, SInce we have almost no contact, Steve suggested I take trip & try & hook up with her somewhere. Strictly for the kids since she hasn't "been able" to see them at all. There will be no discussion of us or the marriage, unless she brings it up.<P>It's not really Plan A stuff, but it is in a way. I'm bringing the kids to her. How is that not Plan A?<P>He didn't ask me to discuss anything with them, just drop off a package at the house for her. We may not even see his parents if she is there. As far as discussing anything with them, if my Wife is not there I should just introduce myself.<P>"Hi, I'm Chris, Donna's husband. This is the address she has given us. We stopped by to visit her for a while. Since she's not here we would like to leave this package for her."<P>Don't be snide about it, just the facts. This will also make sure they know Donna is still married and perhaps exert a bit of pressure from that side.<P>As far as discussing anything with the Wife, just be there with the kids. Make sure she knows that we are not coming to discuss us, but simply for the kids to visit her alone. Not wankboy!<P>Is she gonna get pissed off? Probably. But with the way things are going, something has to be done, hence the stirring of the pot.<P>I mean, what's she gonna do? Leave me? LOL<P>Lu, Probably not through NC at all.<P>Student, I will have my kids with me & I'm still married so that wouldn't be a problem. Don't know If I'm going through Atlanta though.<P>If your sis can get a deal on some stuff, that'd be great.<P>Lor, I'm gonna write her a letter & let her know we will be coming by. Not gonna surprise her with this. Everything should be played above the board. I'm taking advantage of opportunities as I can.<P>Sweetpea <P>TCL, Uh a bit out of the way.<P>Whodat, my friend. Sorta figured you were still around.<P>I think you got it. The girls & I are going on vacation. I'm sorta hoping my Wife <B>won't</B> be there. Talk about a stressful situation! It's bad enough as it is already without actually having to do anything with my Wife! LOL<P>Yes the pot needs to be stirred. We have both been "good" at keeping our sanity because we haven't dealt with each other. She is totally isolated from her "old world" and I haven't had to deal with her affair. Steve said our situation is very much out of the ordinary so it needs to be dealt with a bit differently than most others.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR> Sorta figured you were still around.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Just for you, Chris... gotta check in every few days to see how your story finally finishes. I got way too caught up in it over the last year or so to just let it go without knowing how it plays out. However this crazy, nightmarish soap opera of yours finally does end, my only hope is it ends whichever way is best for you and the girls. <P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die