Hi Everyone,<BR>Sorry I haven't posted or replied in quite awhile...I usually can't access the MB forum at work. I have been plan Aing it for a very long time now, and I finally decided it was time to give up and file for divorce. I feel like I'm dissapointing a lot of people: my family and others on the MB forum. <P>There are many reasons why I decided to file. I just felt like I couldn't put up with the crap anymore, and he has accumulated 12K in credit card debt because of the affair.<P>I had been very conflicted about my decision for several weeks. I have been praying everyday for some kind of sign that I was doing the right thing. I think that sign might have come last night. I came home last night to discover that my H had paged the OW from our house w/ a code: 696969. Compared to everything else that he has done this is trivial, but for some reason I was so disgusted it made me sick to my stomach. It made me realize that this affair that has gone on for almost a year is still in full swing. It also made me realize that it is time to move on.<P>So that's my update...sorry if anyone is dissapointed. I really think this is the best thing for me and my daughter.<P>Since I am here, I do have a quick question about taxes. I had been planning to file jointly w/ my H, but because he took an early withdrawl on his IRA we are going to owe $1,100. Even though his IRA money ($5,000 that is gone) is have mine, I didn't see a dime of that money. If I file separately, I would get a refund, but he would owe $1,700. Does anybody have any advice on how I should file? How are others filing? Thanks for your help.<P>Darlene<P>

Hey! Is anybody out there today? Please reply! Thanks!

Darlene,<P>If it really is over and you don't necessarily care how he takes it, yes you should file separately to get your money back. Overall fuling separately is a loser usually, but in this instance you at least would get something back and stick it to him. <BR><P>------------------<BR>Allen<BR>sparky_dog_mb@yahoo.com

Sleepless,<P>We are filing married but separate. I would talk to yuor attorney. My comment is what should you be penalized for what he did. Iwould ile separate. Just my thoughts. Discovery will be a year ago tomorrow. I hadn't done taxes yet my first thought was to file separate because I would get back he would have had to pay. But I was nice and filed together. I ended up paying our taxes not he. So had I to do again I would have filed separately.<P><P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Thanks to those that replied. I was just wondering if anybody knew the general requirements for filing "married but filing separately" or for filing "head of household". My H and I have been officially separated since 8/5/99, but he had been in and out of the house since 6/99. My daughter has lived with me throughout the separation. Thanks for your advice!<P>Darlene

Hi sleepless.<P>I have done taxes for H& R Block for 10 years.<BR>If your H lived with you at anytime in the last 6 months of the year, you cannot file head of household. The only requirement for married filing separately is being married.<P>You indicated you have a daughter. Is your joint income low enough to qualify for the earned income credit?<p>[This message has been edited by Margaret (edited March 18, 2000).]

i have always filed married but separate. However one thing i missed in the divorce papers was that she claimed our son for 99 instead of 2000. My accountant said he could figure it out.<P>Next year he said I can file head of household.