Sorry you all, I can't write this. It hurts every time I think about it being posted, so I took it all away so I won't have to see it again.<P>Keo<p>[This message has been edited by Keosha (edited March 20, 2000).]

Oh Keo, <P>I am so sorry! It is so hard going back through it all! I fully agree with you, men are naive! They just plain are! My husband is very naive also! It makes me so sick! They let these manipulative women into their lives and then let them destroy their families! It is horrible! Right now, if my husband hadn't gone wacko, he would be walking through the door with a big hug for me! That just kills me. I have my boys though! But, sometimes it is just so nice to have the man! I miss the man. I took my vows seriously, in sickness and in health, for worse of for better, til death do us part. Well, I may not take that last one serious right now because I sure don't want either one of us to croak! <P>I went off on a tangent! SORRY! I am anxious to see the rest of your story Keo. I know it is hard. Take your time!<P>Woozy

I would like to repsectfully disagree with you both. It is the self gratifying HUMANs that are naive. It is not tied to gender. I consider the self gratifying types to really not have a good grasp on reality because they live in the fantasy land where perpetual happiness exists in this part of our existence. Happiness is temporary because it is always situational. Joy is eternal because it is tied to God.<P>MONDO HUG Keo!!!! You have had a really hard row to hoe. You deserve a man who will love you unconditionally as Jesus showed us by His example.<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net

Keo, <P>Wish I was there to give you a big (((((HUG))))). I relate with a lot of your story (especially with your 2nd H)!<P>I, like Woozy, am anxious to hear the rest of your story but only when you're ready. It's hard going back over it all and putting it out where you see it again.<P>You take care,<BR>Mitzi

WOW is all I can say...<P>It's funny... I've been married to the same man for 20 yrs. (only H) and I cannot even IMAGINE being married again... it just seems so temporary somehow... and yet, I can see that I'd want to love again, to fall in love again, and would probably remarry...<P>I feel for you Keo... what a life!! ((((Keo))))<P>I bet if we all wrote our stories, we'd all have some tales to tell, don't cha think? That might be a good idea for a thread... a history thread... and I can talk about gaining and losing like 3000 pounds over 20 years!<P>~Sheryl

to the top, more info added to story...<P><BR>Don't you all feel bad when you read this. <P>Now I'm mad... trying to get over being mad and help this sick man get well and become the loving husband that he was before this all happened.<P>Am I crazy for going thru all this? Probably<P>Am I going to keep trying? Probably<P>Will he ever return from "fantasy land"? Who knows? I hope he will...<P>Keo<p>[This message has been edited by Keosha (edited March 19, 2000).]

Keo,<BR>Wow. I've been married twice, and am now in the stage where I don't want a relationship with a man either. I remember only too well the feelings of "this will be forever" that happens in the early stages of a relationship. <P>I truly hope that you can restore your marriage. My prayers are with you!