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<BR>My mother told me last night she heard that the OW was pregnant.....How do I deal with this? ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <BR>
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Oh Mitzi,<P>I am soooo terribly sorry! I don't now how I would make it through something like you are going through now! I thank God my husband had a vasectomy! I wish there was a way I could comfort you! Just when it seems like it can't get any worse for you, it does! I am saying prayers for you! I don't know what kind of prayers to even say though in a situation like this! I will just pray that God gives you the strength to get through this horrible time! Please know that we are all thinking of you! We really do need to do a marriage builders convention! We would probably be a really pitiful looking bunch! Just take care and I hope you are at least trying to eat and get some sleep! I also hope your family is there supporting you through this time! Take care!<P>Woozy
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I am so sorry. It is truly a thing that I dread. My h. has never given BC too much thought. <P>I wish I had any great words of wisdom or comfort to offer you. All I can do is offer prayers and support here.
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Woozy,<P>There isn't a lot of support here. I hear "you don't need him" and "you should be glad he's gone". <P>I talked to my MIL about this and she hasn't heard it. She's out of town right now but she said when she gets back this evening she's going to call Bob and ask him. I saw her about 3 weeks ago and she didn't look like it. I'm hoping it's just a rumor. <P>What gets me is, if this is true, he didn't want anymore kids. It took me 3 years to talk him into having our last one. <P>I'm so angry and upset that if I type to much at one time, I'll hurt someones feelings and I don't want to do that.<P>I'm almost completely broken. <P>Mitzi
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Hi, again, Mitzi...Maybe it's time to fire up that part of you that wants to get on with life. You can't control your H or OW, but you can control yourself. This is one of the toughest situations you can be in, but you are strong enough to handle it.<P>Don't dwell on it. Anytime there's an infidelity, this is a possibility. I'm so sorry for you and wish I could do something to make the pain disappear, but I can't, so you will have to.<P>I know this all sounds pretty trite, but it's the only way to deal with news like this. <P>Luv ya,<BR>--DeWayne--
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tootrusting,<P>There's not much anyone can say. But I appreciate the support. <P>DeWayne,<P>The part that wants to move on with my life is seriously stuck in self-pity mode. <P>The thing is, in order to look like the good parent during the divorce, I have to be really careful about what I do. I can't do anything that might jeopardize losing my kids. But I guess sitting on my butt all the time isn't what I need to be doing.<P>He has hurt me so much already. I seriously would have rather taken an a** kicking over this anyday. Physical pain goes away. <P>My anger has simply turned to hurt again. Help me get angry again!!! LOL<P>As you can see, I'm pretty pathetic at this moment.<P>Love ya,<BR>Mitzi<P>
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Hey Woozy,<P>I wanted to say something about the marriage builders convention. <P>Can you imagine all of us standing around hugging and crying with our baggy clothes due to our new found diet? The dark circles under our eyes. <P>We need to have it somewhere with enough couches and computer desks for everyone or else we won't know how to act! LOL
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Mitzi -- First of all, you are NOT pathetic... You deserve a lot of credit for going thru what you have and not gone "postal". You are sure right in the comparison with this stuff and physical pain.<P>What you asked about being made angry again, really hit home. It's funny, but I do some of my most clear-headed thinking about this mess when I am angry at W. It turns off the love emotion long enough to get out of that stupid betrayed-fantasy world and see things as they really are.<P>It's a struggle, but we will survive and even prosper before it's all over...<P>Hugs..<P>--DeWayne--
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Mitzi,<P>LOL!!! I tell you what, I'll bring the cheesecake and Keo is in charge of bringing the beef jerky!!! You can bring the Cappucino! I know, we will have to each have our own computer and sit by each other and type back and forth on the computer to each other! Oh, this is just too funny! Hmmm, I'm thinking Chicago would be a nice central location to meet.<P>Woozy
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DeWayne,<P>I think the only reason I haven't gone postal is because I haven't seen him in 5 weeks. And when I talk to him on the phone, I usually end up hanging up on him. I hate even talking to him anymore.<P>I'm an expert on the physical pain. And I know for a fact it's true. He kicked my [censored] more times than I can count. That's why I need to get over this and get on with my quiet little life with my kids.<P>I know I'm not pathetic. What is pathetic is this "man" treated me like a dog for the 10 years we were married and I still can't stay angry enough at him. I shouldn't even be hurting. I should be having a party!! (Maybe that MB convention!)<P>I know I'll make it, I just wish it didn't take so long!!<P>Hugs,<BR>Mitzi
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Woozy,<P>French Vanilla Capuccino. It would be so weird actually talking instead of typing. <P>Lesa has to bring chocolate pie! YUMMY!<P>I wish there was a way we could get one organized for real. I feel so close to everyone here!<BR>
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Mitzi,<P>It would be really nice! I bet we could stay up all night talking and laugh for a change! I'll bring Irish Cream Cappucino! Yes, Lesa must bring chocolate pie too! You have become a dear friend too me! Thank you! Take care! The Harley's really need to consider throwing one of these bashes together!<P>Woozy
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Hey we could always try to plan something ourselves!. I know there are some here who like the anonymity of the BB but, if you think about it, we know each other better than anyone else. The only thing we don't know about some is real names. I'm not very good at being anonymous, I use my real name. <P>It would have to be a week-long thing. A couple of days wouldn't be enough. It would be a "hoot"!
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Mitzi -- That is a wonderful idea, but realistically, how many people would attend?? I think you would have to have several regional "conventions" to reduce travel costs...some people would want to attend more than one and that would be great.<P>--DeWayne--
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Mitzi and Woozy,<P>A few months ago, we got together with some people from another board. We were traveling to Dallas and there were about 10 people there that we knew from the board, so we said "let's do lunch!" They all showed up and we spent an enjoyable afternoon. Maybe we should just keep informed on where everyone (who wants to participate) is so when we are traveling we can set something up. I live in N.W. Arkansas, near Fayetteville and the University of Arkansas. Anyone coming this way soon?<P>------------------<BR>Cat<P>I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then.
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DeWayne,<P>Some of us have talked about it in the infidelity chat room. Of course, we've never come up with a realistic way to do it! ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Travel costs would be the hardest thing. But, you have to admit, it would be fun!<P>Nobeswax,<P>I don't get to travel much. But if anybody's ever in WV (In the easern part of the state), the can always look me up! I think it would be fun to put faces with names.<P>Mitzi
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Mitzi,<P>I know it's easier said than done, but try to ignore it... <P>It's possible that OW might not be preg. rumors fly like a wildfire!<P>Also possible OW started the rumor just to "take a punch" at you.<P>But, what if it is true? Let her worry about it. You take care of you. Again, easier said than done.<P>I like the MB party. Can't bring the beef jerky (ate ALL of it!) but I have a frig full of carrot sticks <P>Love you Mitz, <BR>Keo
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Keo,<P>I've thought of the rumor aspect of it. I know when there are break-ups and divorces, people say stuff that isn't true. She's a 40+ yr. old woman who had 2 kids taken away from her. My H is 32 and didn't want any more kids (at least not with me). It all just makes me sick to my stomach. But I am feeling better about me.<P>I can only worry about me and my life. I just hate to see an innocent baby brought into this mess. Yeah, it is easier said than done.<P>Yeehaw!!! Mybe you ate the beef jerky but it's gone and you got carrots instead!!! Good for you!<P>Love ya,<BR>Mitzi
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Aw, Mitzi!!<P>Endings are hard, aren't they? I'll bet it is only a rumor - and probably started by OW - but it still hurts. Stay strong you!!<BR>And so will I!!
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RC,<P>I'm hoping it's just a rumor. I have enough to deal with. This is one thing I don't need. <P>I'm trying to stay strong.<P>(((((HUGS))))) to you,<BR>Mitzi
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