Hi everybody!!!<P>I have been lurking but rarely posting. I have been feeling better lately since I set some ground rules for wandering H. He is still living with his mom and dad. I have forced the issue of regular visitation, expenses, rules at "my" house, etc. H still will not tell the children about what's going on and I have been forced to tell my 13 year old, but I have put off telling the younger ones. He has not filed for divorce yet...although he says he strongly wants one. I feel better. I have taken some control of my life. My therapist says I am rallying well. I have to admit I feel much better. I just wanted to update everyone. There is a person posting on here who could be my H's clone. It is almost our story exactly. Everytime I read his posts I have a panic attack. "What to do" you are the one like my H. If you have any decency, you will give up your OW and work on your marriage.<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com

Keri,<P>I am glad you are doing better. I remember when I took control and set the ground rules, how much stronger I truly felt. I can't read "what to do"'s post either without getting a little hurt myself.<P>Be strong, take care of yourself, and keep in touch with me! Dana<BR>