What do I do with the lonliness, depression, and desire to talk to H? I am 8 months pregnant and we have an almost five year old daughter. My H moved out to live with the OW on Feb 7. He came back twice since for only two days each time. Now we are planning on getting divorced as soon as we can afford it. But in the mean time we have to see each other because of our daughter. And will soon be expecting our son. I know there is not much chance of our ever making this marriage work but I am having such a hard time letting go. I have had friends and family tell me how well I am handeling the situation. But when I am home alone with our daughter and he should be here (not at work) I feel like my heart is ripping apart. I miss him so much.

((((((VETT))))))))<P>Oh my gosh. I am literally shaking. How could he? <P>I can feel your pain.<P>I am so sorry....what a horrible situation for you to be in. <P>Is he excited at all about the new baby? <P>Please take good care of yourself.....that new baby and your daughter need you so bad.<P>Is there any hope for the two of you at all? How long has this OW been in the picture?<P>Please post....and keep on posting...it really does help. We all want the best for you and will be here for you....please remember that.<P>Keep us posted<P>Nancy

Vett,<P>I am so sorry you are hurting like this! I can't imagine how a man could walk out on his pregnant wife How long have you been in plan b? <P>Like Nancy said, take care of yourself for your children. Maybe your H will return from fantasyland soon, but either way, you have to hang in there. Please take care and keep posting!<P>Tulip

He actually started the relationship with OW around the end of December. I found out about the affair the end of January. He decided he wanted a trial seperation and moved out "temporarily"on Feb 7. after about a week and a half I talked him into coming home. He did and after about two days he left again. He continued to tell me he was coming back the deadline was supposed to be March 8. That was his date. When the day came he wanted a couple of more days. I said no. We had a BIG fight and he decided to leave for good. I decided to go to my parents who didn't know till then. On my way he called my mobile from the house and said he was home we were disconnected. When I called back he said he was still confused and would talk to me later. Found out later that OW was there to help him get some things and she had hung up on me. But that he was confused (obviously). He called me on the 10th from home and wanted me to come home and talk and try to work out. I did we had a nice family dinner and evening. The next day was normal and seemed to go okay. On the next morning (sunday) OW called to say she had some of his things. I tried not to let her talk to him but ended up letting her (STUPID ME). I didn't leave the room and he didn't talk long. I went to church when I came home he took his truck to his parents to fix a flat when he returned I could tell something was wrong. He informed me that he didn't care about our marriage and didn't have the feelings for me he had for her. He decided he didn't want to give us more time. At that point I made him go tell his parents and he moved out that afternoon. As for him being happy about the baby I don't think he has given it much thought. He is basically being very selfish and thinking only of himself. His only reason for choosing OW over me is because he is happier with her. But he has said many times that he wasn't unhappy with me. Which makes his leaving so much harder because he won't see what kind of person he has decided to be with, and is ruining a marriage that didn't really have that many problems. We have fought more in the last two months than we have in the almost four years of marriage.