I was curious if your wife has ever been on this forum? I know that in the few weeks I have been on here it has really helped me understand where each party is coming from. I know that in a lot of sense it has helped my H understand and has helped him a bunch. It was just a thought. You may not want her to know or she may not want you to know each others posting names for a sense of privacy for a while. Perhaps suggesting?<P>Good Luck<BR>Mercy