My wife and I are trying to re-build our marriage after 9 months of being on the road. I am currently un-employed. I was a long haul truck driver. I am looking for employment but not interested in long haul any longer. I want to be at home with my wife and work on my marriage. I am the betrayer. <BR>Can anyone offer any advice?<P>[This message has been edited by Jake/36 (edited March 28, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by Jake/36 (edited March 28, 2000).]

Jake,<P>You have certainly come to the right place if rebuilding your marriage is what you want.<BR>I am no expert but I would like to say welcome to you and point you in the direction of just found out forum. In it you will find a post by NRS titled "A general welcome for new Builders" or something similar. In it you will find many links to useful information. <BR>You have made an important first step in trying to find support. Maybe you can show this site to your wife too. She probably needs support as well.<BR>My advice to you would be to be as honest with your wife as possible. Make your life an open book. Find out what she needs and let her know what you need. Be loving and patient.<BR>Post here, and read posts, find out from other poeple what she may be feeling and follow the advice of those who have gone before you.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole <p>[This message has been edited by Patient Love (edited March 28, 2000).]

Welcome!! <P>My best advice would be to really get into readings as many posts as you can! You are bound to find many people dealing with what you are right now. There is a "roll call" in the "just found out" forum that is very helpful in letting you know who posts and who they are!<P>I too am the betrayer. But recovery is on the way!<P>If you have any questions, post and you shall get advice and answers!!<P>Good Luck<BR>Mercy

Jake - welcome and so glad you're here.<P>You're taking the BEST first steps!! Joining us, reading EVERYTHING you can on this site. Jump over into the "just found out" section and read Jim's Notable Posts thread. Lots of good info there.<P>We're here. Come anytime with your questions and feelings. You CAN do this and build a marriage that's better than you ever hoped for! You'll find lots of info from betrayed and betrayers alike - all of us friends who are helping each other along this roller coaster ride.<P>Just be strong, work hard....it'll all be worth it!<P>Lori<BR>

Jake,<P><B>Welcome aboard!!!</B><P>Click on this link; it's a welcome post by our friend NSR (Jim). <B>A must read!</B><BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html</A> <P>Alex<P>------------------<BR><B>Live fully and always learn</B>

Jake:<P>Congratulations on making a great choice: staying with your wife and working things out!<P>It's going to be hard--I can bet that she's hurting, but love and hard work can cure the pain in this marriage.<P>My advice is to read and then ACT! Read the information at this site and read the books. Then follow their advice and do the exercises.<P>Look for the reasons you strayed and fix them. <P>Your wife loves you. Don't let the words she uses when she's in pain frighten you away.<P>Good luck!