Does any one know of a place to go on the web, or (I live in Long Island New York) a place to go, as in a group of divorcee`s kids (a 12 yr old) to vent??? <P>My daughter is just starting therapy next week, but she sees me here all the time.. reading and some times posting, and asked if she could come here, and do the same thing.. I felt it was a bit too adult for her, and would really like to find out if there is such a thing/place/web.. <P>since my ex left (nov 98) I had taken her to a counceler, which she didn`t like, stopped that one, went looking for a new one, and she wouldn`t go back.. (didn`t like the experience) she then went to her school counceler, which is now her choice, (over ME!!!) and doesn`t open up to me any more, and is now mis-conscrewing everything that is happening, and explaining her self all worng to her school counceler.. now I am getting calls from the school, expressing concern.. which is fine.. but they are getting all the wrong!! info!! expressed the wrong way, from this kid who most defintily is very confused!!! <P>I can not wait until next week!!!!, but as we all know it does take time with counceling, and coming here on line has helped me alot..!!! and I was hoping to find some freinds she may be able converse with, so she can do the same thing.. <BR>any suggestions...!???? <P>AV

I don't know of any off the top of my head, but if I were you I'd check with my church or synagog and see what resources they know of.<P>You don't mention what part of LI you live on, but I know there must be a lot of teen groups in NYC and if that's even semi-convenient you might want to investigate them.<P>Can you talk to her school counselor and ask if s/he knows of any teen groups nearby? Perhaps if the school counselor suggested them your daughter would be more likely to go.<P>I'd be cautious about sending a troubled teen to the internet--it's harder for kids to separate good advice from bad advice.<P>Good luck! I hope you find something soon.

thanks you so much for your reply... I have asked the school counceler about this, and she gave me two names, in which I have gone to one of them, and it was an older woman, I know my kid would not have taken to... the first guy she went to, she was uncomfy with and told me she wants some one younger and a woman.. so now I have made the appointment with this next one, (they assure me she is young and very good with kids!!!) I can`t wait to go.. but again, it is only once a week, and this will all take time, and the rest of the week, we are clashing big time.. <P>You see it is very near the end of the D.. and the paper work for the divorce is here, and ready to sign, and done by next week.. and at this very sad time.. I am back sliding and I think she is too.. we both had hoped and wanted it all to work out.. but this (alien) stbx, wants no part of me, any more.. and has proven that to her and me time and time again.. he pulls up and leaves.. we havn`t even looked each other in the eyes for at least 8 mths or so.. <P>I know this effects her so very much, too, and I have written him notes to try and make an effort to get along for her sake.. his note back to me, was "when I sign the D___! papers, then MAYBE he`ll co-operate!!!!!" so you see she knows he is adiment, and being stubborn, but she is still balming me for his leaving.. by showing her (or possible telling who knows!) her that I am the reason he is not coming back, so in reality she blames me, AND herself!!<P>I know the web is a chance we all take to get a quick fix, ssupport and it is a good way to releive your venting.. so I thought ppperhaps this possibly could be a good thing for her too.. <P>thanks again for your response.. I do appreciate it.. <P>AV