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I'll try to be brief as my time on the internet isn't that much. Found this site from a good friend of mine who I've confided in about my problem.<P>Married to husband for 15 years. 2 children 13 and 10 years old. Husband has had 2 affairs, the first one being 5 years after being married. I almost didn't get through that I was so devastated. 2nd affair started 2 years ago and I thought it was over but it's not I just found out. I know that the steps taken toward the betraying spouse are Plan A, then Plan B when you feel your lovebank being depleted. I have plan A'd as best I could (no one is perfect, but I feel I've always tried to be calm and rational and loving) for a long time now walking on eggshells and we've been to couseling but my h will not go again. Is continuing Plan A a logical step when you've done this for so long? I still love my husband unbelievably enough and I can't imagine devastating my children by separating at this point. How can Plan A work for the spouse that has been doing this unknowingly all along? <P>Should I be in Plan B now?
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Welcome <B>Laynie</B>...<P>I normally have a welcome post I recommend...<BR>check it out if you haven't already ===><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders</A>.<P>Basically Plan A last while you have love for your H...<BR>If it isn't waning yet...<BR>If you don't have uncontrollable Love Busters...<BR>Stay with it!<BR>Do be honest with your H...<BR>Let him know the hurt he is causing...<P>When you can't go on with Plan A...<BR>...move over to Plan B.<P>I have written earlier posts on these plans...<BR>See them at.. <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011323.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101</A>...and...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Archives/Archive-000001/HTML/20000110-1-011046.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101</A>.<P>To really know...<BR>...from an objective professional opinion...<BR>Get some counseling from Steve or Jennifer Harley... (see the "counseling" section on the home page).<P> ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Jim
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